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User Topic: What do you do when your H is out of town?
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Watch a Lifetime movie marathon about killers, of course.

Definitely going to double lock the doors and windows tonight. And check them twice!

“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Ha I've done the same! Stay safe

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Posts: 3640 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Thanks.

“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
I wouldn't worry too much. The bears should take care of most of the killers

FBH - 45
FWW - 46 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 10 & 15

The people you do your life with shape the life you live

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
When I was away from home as a road warrior or when my W was away, I too watched movies I couldn't watch when she was around - a little porn, but mainly classic movies that were tense thrillers or violent. Classics, not Lifetime.

fBH (me) - 70+, fWW, Married 45+, together 45+, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
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Mauimom1
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Content  Posted: 10:42 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
I absolutely do not cook dinner. Take out for the kiddos every night!
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stilllovinghim
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Default  Posted: 1:26 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Either watch something like Steel Magnolias or Terms of Endearment.

I've been known to also meticulously clean the house and plan my escape route keeping in mind where the nearest knives were in case I was attacked when my H used to work nights. Why clean the house meticulously you ask? So that: 1) if the cops show up with a camera crew the house would look nice...aside from my dead body and 2) its easier to dust for prints and collect evidence. Swear to Christ that was my train of thought.

[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 1:26 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:48 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
I once watched The Signs at my dad's house when I was alone - at 3am.... in a room with glass doors with no shutters.

Gluttons for punishment, we are.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
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wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
I used to wait for him to call, while I slept on his side of the bed...after I set house alarm.

One night house alarm goes off at like 3am. It's me and kids, SHIT! I grab XH's bat from under his side of bed and venture out of the bedroom. If I didn't have kids - I would've laid there crying/whizzing self...but I had kids.

Alarm people call - WBN, is everything ok? I say, I don't know, I have a wood bat and am walking downstairs.

Alarm people - ok, well we can't really stay on the phone.

WBN - you g.d. better!!! I have 2 babies, you are NOT letting me go!

Dude stays on.

Come to find my silly ass cat clawed open a door that triggered the alarm! Oops! TTYL, alarm peeps! I'm out.

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