We have done the 5 languages of love. When i first did it, Gifts wasn't mine. It was physical touch and quality time. I think its changed now, to gifts. I don't know why but Ill have to do it again.
His was words of affirmation and acts of service. Which i believe i always adhere too. I am always giving him praise like hes in Air Assault school right now and I tell him that hes doing great and that hes going to graduate it with no mistakes and i do things around the house that are normally "his" jobs because i feel nice and give him a break.
Maybe i need to have him read the book again.
I ordered the book " How to help my spouse heal" and I am hoping it will be a good book. I plan on reading it first.
I am getting back into counseling at least IC. After the first one I am going to request to MC as well, I wanted to wait until after Air Assault school to start on MC again. Thanks for the feed back, Since things have slowed down after our move, I've just been bombarded with feelings again.