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User Topic: where do I post this? I sad about good news
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Sad  Posted: 9:55 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Offer on my house. Happy that I can move on. I know this is my new beginning and the right and only road I should be traveling on...But I brought my babies home here. I lived here for almost half of my life.

I am relieved, devastated, sad and crying. This has not happened in a long time. Shocked by my reaction. Just when you think you have recovered some errant emotion takes a brick and hits you upside your head.

There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.
After litigation, lawyers and courtrooms, I went back to school and recieved my Masters in Conflict Resolution. Now a Mediator helping people avoid what I went through!

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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BS 51 and Freaking AWESOME!
Him: Who the fuck cares........

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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I felt similar about the marital house I left 10 mo ago.
Ft and I met there, married in the backyard,raised his son and my daughter there, and brought two of our grandsons there after their births. So much history in 30 yrs. It was fitting we divorced while we still lived there.

I will say I couldn't have moved forward if I remained there.
Hugs the memories will alway be special and now you will create new ones in your new home.
Big Hugs !!!!!

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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Default  Posted: 1:43 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's something that hit me too - especially the last time I left the house after moving out.

It was our marital home for 9 years - which is not as long as you had but it still hit me.

I agree with gma - it's hard but it's an important step in moving forward. But it is yet another loss to mourn as you do so. (( Hugs))

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I know I will be experiencing the same thing when I leave this house at the end of next year.

This house was the first one during our entire marriage that we were in longer than 4 years (due to job promotions and relocations). I finally have the kitchen of my dreams...

But you know what, even though I know I will grieve, I am actually looking forward to those after feelings of peace and letting go.

You will soon be feeling this too. Congratulations on the offer and cheers to your moving forward!

M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."

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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been there, done that, it's very tough. Big hugs, you'll get through this and move on.


[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:49 AM, June 23rd (Sunday)]

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's ok to be sad about this. It's ok to grieve, even for a house.

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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wasn't in my marital home as long as you, but I felt the same way when we foreclosed. There were so many dreams and plans that never happened.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

3 boys: 11, 9, and 1.

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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWIW, I've lived in many places as I followed my WH around for his career. There was sadness each time I left one of those places for the last time, even when we were moving someplace exciting. It's the closing of a chapter. It's sad even without all the bad things going on in our lives. I think the sad ending likely makes it a bit worse though. I guess I'll find out when I sell the house we own now. The last house we will ever live in together in a 27 year marriage.

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken

There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.

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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me - BW
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

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