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Your wife says she was screwed up, what has she done to correct her being screwed up?
I also had the horrible time of pushing to get answers. I did not fully get answers until my H went to IC. I have been able to get pass the lies by seeing my H change for the better. He is a completely different person now. It also helped that he started to be completely honest with me no matter what. Prior to IC he would tell lies to avoid any conflict.
Married-12 years together 13
Kids 4: 15, 12, 8, and 3
DDay#1 9-26-2008 Dday#2 4-26-2010
We have R!!! But I still hate the number 26!
This too shall pass
I edit a lot because that stupid box is so small!