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User Topic: Wh's reason for trickle truth----
♀ 38141
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This just in from my wh ---
The reason he has not been honest?

He didn't want to make me sad.

Seriously? That's the best he can come up with?

If that's the case why did he carry on with chickie in the first place? Did he think THAT wouldn't make me sad?


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse

Lawyers involved.

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Revenge  Posted: 9:08 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's called trickle truth. They want to cover their asses as much as possible.

Sure, they'll say so they don't want to inflict any additional pain but it really is to minimize their horrid choices and hopefully preventing themselves from looking like even more of a jerk.

Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for

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Default  Posted: 2:18 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's more about not getting into more trouble then they are already in.

It's also about keeping their secrets and their unicorn la la land BS free and protecting their AP.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

Posts: 1530 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
♀ 31349
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Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They say that a lot, and they have convinced themselves that it's true.

The reality is that THEY don't want to see/feel the ramifications of their actions.

The sooner he can acknowledge that the truth is the key to healing, the sooner you both will feel real relief.

"How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair" by Linda MacDonald has been a HUGE eye opener for many WS's that stood a chance of owning what they've done and making things right. Maybe he would be open to reading it?

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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