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User Topic: News flash! You can't love yourself.
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Exclaimation  Posted: 11:57 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This headline caught my eye, and I wanted to share this article here, since self-loathing is an issue that comes up frequently. What do y'all think about it?

My IC recommended that I love and comfort my traumatized 8-year-old self, which is a hard concept to wrap my brain around, but this article provides some tools for doing just that.

The part about loving our future aspect, I really liked too. One could draw the same parallel between a healthy lifestyle and loving one's future aspect, too: I choose to run today, and pass up the french fries, as a way of expressing love to my 70-year-old aspect, so she can be healthy and active. And I choose to be devoted to my H and M, so she can have a loving partner by her side.

fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."

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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that is a very cool perspective..... thank you for sharing

BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)

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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing this. I found it helpful.

fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.

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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really great article. Thank you for sharing! It's now saved as one of my favorites. :)

WW (me) 33
BS 37
Working towards recovery after an EA

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