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User Topic: Hacking into wireless account
♂ 31891
Member # 31891
Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW got a new cellphone after D day. Watches it like a hawk so it's vertically impossible to get to it. It's a flip top not a smartphone.

What's everyone's opinion on opening a wireless account online "on her behalf" to access things.

She's still involved in her A and looks like we're headed toward D.

Any experiences out there. Interested in opinions and the pros and coins.

[This message edited by jimbo25319 at 9:47 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)]

Posts: 486 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Maryland
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's exactly how I know who my husband is calling/texting.

Me BS: 42
WH: 44
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9

Posts: 160 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If she's still involved in her A and you're headed towards D, there is only pain to be found by hacking into her account.. You know enough already to move on.. Trust me when I say that all that extra info will be unnecessary daggers in your heart.. That would be something to do if you were in R and needed to verify trustworthiness. Otherwise, my advice is to let it go and focus on your healing..


xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jimbo, please protect yourself and let this go. You have enough information to know that she is not willing to work to save your M. At this point, your focus should be moving away from her mentally. Do not give her the ability to hurt you any more. Based on your past posts, your children are still fairly young and you will likely have to continue to deal with her on an ongoing basis regardless of whether your M survives. Be strong and know that you are moving towards a better future.

BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 438 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's how I confirmed A after 3 yrs of knowing but finding nothing to confirm. If you have already confirmed, then why do you want to see? I know my ws still has daily contact with ow in Facebook and I do look everyday. As painful as it can be, my reason is because it keeps me focused on D in the future. He has gift/curse of being able to suck me back into thinking he's nc, so I do look just to remind myself what a devious snake he is. For me, checking is a great motivator to not get to comfortable and slip back to denial

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 1:38 AM, June 24th (Monday)]
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
♂ 31891
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It would only confirm what I already know. She's upfront about her contact with the OM.

Prior to doing a little research, my reasoning was for evidence of the A in the D proceedings. However, in my state for D purposes, adultery is defined as sexual intercourse. An EA doesn't met the legal requirements to file under adultery. That f#ckin sucks.

Posts: 486 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Maryland
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