I'm glad to hear that you and your H are in MC and that he is in IC. How is that going? Has he recanted the story of "Humiliating" his XW? For if he hasn't then I would worry about that. Must be lots of bitterness and hatred buried to want to do that. Personally I find his reason more disturbing than cheating. This may just be me though.
As to the ups and downs in dealing with infidelity, it happens if your are in reconciliation and in separation and divorce. It is part of the healing process from infidelity. We often refer to it as a rollercoaster. One day is great and the next is awful. One day there is so much hope and another you feel like when you found out.
When you get down are you able to communicate with your H about this? If not maybe an IC would be helpful to give yourself an outlet. In the mean time try to communicate your feelings on things with him. Watch to see what changes he is making and make sure actions back up his words.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
I hope you can do your best to look after yourself. In my experience, MC was not a good option when we tried it in the beginning, as H was not being honest at that point. I hope you can find healing and the life you deserve. Take care.
He is trying very hard, is very sorry, continues to be transparent, etc. Sometimes, I can tell he feels I dwell on the A too much -- he has never said this, it's a feeling I get. And recently he said, that eventually in the future, he expects that we will talk about it much less, which in a way annoys me but maybe he has a point.
In any case, I'm really glad this website is here and that people are willing to answer questions and give advice.
Sometimes, I can tell he feels I dwell on the A too much -- he has never said this, it's a feeling I get. And recently he said, that eventually in the future, he expects that we will talk about it much less, which in a way annoys me but maybe he has a point.