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User Topic: Trigger
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's a trial just starting in my area for a guy named George Zimmerman. One of the witnesses (who lives right by where the murder happened and heard the incident and took pictures) is my STBX's friend and co-worker and the only guy as far as I know who knew about the affair while it was happening.. That asshole was supposed to be my friend, too, and had come to our house with his family numerous times.

This stupid trial is all over the news, all over Facebook, it's everywhere. Another one of my friends is actually a cameraman for a news station and is posting updates all day long.. I just want that asshole who knew about the affair to be on trial. I want him burned for what he did. I have a bad feeling this trial is going to last a long time, and I'm gonna have to figure out how to stay away from it or stop letting it trigger me..


xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
♀ 38378
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, Butterfly Girl, that's awful.

I share your trigger agony in some ways, because all of our news is out of the next state over except one semi-local channel I can't stand. It's behind the times and doesn't play music I like or DD110 (very opinionated!) likes.

The news on tv is much the same and I can't hear even one sentence without mention of the state where Ow lives and now Perv. I can't even stand hearing it mentioned and I can't stand to see license plates from it, as many people do their errands and shopping in this are for some reason.

I want to figure out how to get over it, because I miss the news in that form. I've found it in other ways, but those were my favorite channels.

Now I am sick to follow it by listening, or to see it on tv with all the maps and to know something as the weather there sets me off.

He has started to talk to DD about it -against my wishes-as an attempt to stop lying to her-and when I hear her say it, it makes the tears come.

I'm sorry too for your loss of friends, for I have that happening too.

It seems like a lot of common things happen, even when A's are not the same details?

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 3034 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, I know how you feel. STBX had a co-worker that fractured his femur and had to undergo several surgeries. I cooked him dinner a couple of times and had WH bring it to him. Later, when I discovered the A, I found that WH had a secret FB account where he and were OW listed as in a relationship. There were only 4 friends on WH's page and this co-worker was one of them.

So I slaved over a home cooked dinner for this prick while he and WH ate it and probably discussed the illicit A. I told STBX that I wished I had put rat poison in his food.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 1268 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geez, now that asshole's wife is testifying as a witness too. I just can't express how much I HATE these people.. Especially the wife. That bitch should have told me no matter what rather than let my STBX lie and manipulate me.. And her and her husband manipulated me as well by coming over and playing happy fucking family and letting our kids play together. I know they didn't cheat on me, but they are absolutely accomplices if you ask me..

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your friends should have told you about the affair.

You could hide his posts on Facebook until this trial is over. You might want to let him know why and tell him when the trial is over you'll unhide his posts.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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