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caregiver9000 (original poster member #28622) posted at 7:52 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
I have begun communicating with a fellow online. He writes well, has a good vocabulary and his areas of study are interesting to me. BUT... I am having a hard time with a writing habit that seems pretty odd, and it is in EVERY message at least once at the beginning, and again at the conclusion.
I feel so petty for pointing this out, but maybe someone here has experience or can put it into a context where I can let it go?
He writes "Smile." I think in place of the :) icon that most people in informal writing. But he writes the word out. The first time I read it I thought it was a command sentence telling me to smile. But it is not. It is just a thing he does.
I am wondering how this translates into verbal conversation??? 
Anyhow... This is a first for me and I have talked to LOTS of people online. Thought I would share!
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Hurt_Evermore ( new member #13562) posted at 7:57 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
He's probably not actually writing 'smile'
Your email client just substitutes a smilie that it doesn't support, with the word. He probably sees the smilie but it doesn't show up properly in your email.
This happens all the time when emailing to/from different clients.
[This message edited by Hurt_Evermore at 1:57 PM, June 24th (Monday)]
Me: 25
Him: 28
Together for 4 years.
caregiver9000 (original poster member #28622) posted at 8:00 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
OH!!! That makes sense!
See? Putting it here is always the right thing to do.
It is weird though to read it... 
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 9:53 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
Wow - I would never have figured that out. 
I would have thought the same as caregiver.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
caregiver9000 (original poster member #28622) posted at 10:13 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
thank you persevere. I appreciate not being alone in my state.
Seriously, though, I kept thinking "Smile! You're on Candid Camera!" as if online dating isn't weird enough as it is...
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 11:23 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
I have girlfriends who text/email words like smile, sigh, laugh, frown etc instead of using emoticons.For them it's just a style of using text.
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
Hurt_Evermore ( new member #13562) posted at 7:57 PM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2013
You can try it on SI, by putting a colon immediately before and after the word smile. It'll automatically insert a happy smilie. He might even be used to typing it out himself knowing that it's a smilie command, but not knowing that it doesn't show up properly in your messages!
I don't think he's as weird as it looks!
Me: 25
Him: 28
Together for 4 years.
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