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cuppacoffee posted 6/24/2013 15:44 PM

How did you handle it? Did you ignore it? Did you celebrate?

We are about 6 weeks out and trying to R but I don't know how I'm going to feel when it rolls around on Sunday. It will be 12 years for us.

brokensunflower posted 6/24/2013 15:46 PM

we celebrated ours he spent almost thousand dollars on me . just take it one day at a time & take it slow.. play it by ear when anniversary comes a see where your emotions are ...

2married2quit posted 6/24/2013 15:52 PM

6 weeks out is not much at all. We were one year out and didn't celebrate at all. Maybe next year. The A was it its highest point during our Anniversary a year ago so this year we bypassed it.

unfound posted 6/24/2013 16:01 PM

our anniversary was a few months after dday, and it sucked. I just wanted to go about the day as any other, you know crying, curled up in a ball .

talk to your H about how you're feeling about it. let him know how you want to celebrate or not celebrate the anniversary. let him know that if you do celebrate it, that there's a chance that you might need to stop, go home, be alone etc, so have a back up plan.

knowing ahead of time and sharing what you're doing, how you might be feeling and how you'll both deal with it helps.

2married2quit posted 6/24/2013 16:09 PM

I just wanted to go about the day as any other, you know crying, curled up in a ball

My daily routine for a year. I still get the urge to go back to that here and there.

cuppacoffee posted 6/24/2013 16:11 PM

Yesterday was a great day. We talked and enjoyed life. I didn't even peek on her FB.

Then we were talking about something and she came up. I was crushed. Today we were able to talk it out but damn it stings and hurts.

I know he's starting to feel it all and understand what he actually did. His depression is definately making this all more difficult.

For our anniversary I'd like to go to dinner, go to the movies, and punch the COW in the face.

Jospehine85 posted 6/24/2013 17:06 PM

I will never celebrate our anniversary again.

Lostinthismess posted 6/24/2013 17:09 PM

Our 12 year anniversary was 3 days after dday.... So yeah, we ignored it. Sad that we didn't even have plans that had to be cancelled though

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