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cuppacoffee (original poster member #39313) posted at 9:44 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
How did you handle it? Did you ignore it? Did you celebrate?
We are about 6 weeks out and trying to R but I don't know how I'm going to feel when it rolls around on Sunday. It will be 12 years for us.
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
brokensunflower ( member #38674) posted at 9:46 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
we celebrated ours he spent almost thousand dollars on me . just take it one day at a time & take it slow.. play it by ear when anniversary comes a see where your emotions are ...
me 34
him 34
7 wonderful kids 14 yrs 10 yrs 7 yrs 6 yrs and 4 yrs 2yr ..and new baby
married 15years together for 12
my give a damn is busted
2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 9:52 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
6 weeks out is not much at all. We were one year out and didn't celebrate at all. Maybe next year. The A was it its highest point during our Anniversary a year ago so this year we bypassed it.
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
unfound ( member #12802) posted at 10:01 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
our anniversary was a few months after dday, and it sucked. I just wanted to go about the day as any other, you know crying, curled up in a ball 
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talk to your H about how you're feeling about it. let him know how you want to celebrate or not celebrate the anniversary. let him know that if you do celebrate it, that there's a chance that you might need to stop, go home, be alone etc, so have a back up plan.
knowing ahead of time and sharing what you're doing, how you might be feeling and how you'll both deal with it helps.
ka-mai
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Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."
2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 10:09 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
I just wanted to go about the day as any other, you know crying, curled up in a ball
My daily routine for a year. I still get the urge to go back to that here and there.
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
cuppacoffee (original poster member #39313) posted at 10:11 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
Yesterday was a great day. We talked and enjoyed life. I didn't even peek on her FB.
Then we were talking about something and she came up. I was crushed. Today we were able to talk it out but damn it stings and hurts.
I know he's starting to feel it all and understand what he actually did. His depression is definately making this all more difficult.
For our anniversary I'd like to go to dinner, go to the movies, and punch the COW in the face.
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
Jospehine85 ( member #35971) posted at 11:06 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
I will never celebrate our anniversary again.
Me - BS
WH - old
Kids
Dday May 2012
Lostinthismess ( member #39210) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, June 24th, 2013
Our 12 year anniversary was 3 days after dday.... So yeah, we ignored it. Sad that we didn't even have plans that had to be cancelled though 
'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'
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