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whos WS has them??? i know mine does ....i think i had one , not anymore though(scratch that i probably do have a pretty big ego too cause it wont let me see clearly for too long).
is it bad or good for you?

[This message edited by huRtZ413 at 4:04 PM, June 24th (Monday)]

WH's ego is huge. I used to have confidence in myself and now that has been shattered.

I feel it is better to be humble than overinflated.

Usually those with big egos have low self esteem.

I used to say the 3rd person in our marriage was WH's ego. Check out narcissism and NPD. Odds are you'll see your WS.

Interesting I never thought WH had a big ego or an ego at all. I never saw him as selfish and needing his ego stroked. He was so good at portraying himself as a strong person who didn't need people to kiss up to him. I knew he had FOO issues but I thought they were because his mother was very controlling and the façade was important to her. I thought he just didn't want me to walk all over him like his mother did his dad. Boy was I wrong. I wonder how I missed it. Maybe because I was drowning in my FOO issues of trying to keep the peace and not feeling like I was the problem for our marital problems.