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User Topic: big ego's
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

whos WS has them??? i know mine does ....i think i had one , not anymore though(scratch that i probably do have a pretty big ego too cause it wont let me see clearly for too long).
is it bad or good for you?

[This message edited by huRtZ413 at 4:04 PM, June 24th (Monday)]



Posts: 278 | Registered: May 2013
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH's ego is huge. I used to have confidence in myself and now that has been shattered.

I feel it is better to be humble than overinflated.

BS/FWS (me):41 Madhatter
WS/BS:44 Serial Cheater
Together 19 years, Married 14
DD(11) DS(8)
DDay(s) Too many to count
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Usually those with big egos have low self esteem.

It's not really a fairy tale 'till the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain

Posts: 1845 | Registered: Oct 2007
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used to say the 3rd person in our marriage was WH's ego. Check out narcissism and NPD. Odds are you'll see your WS.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

Posts: 694 | Registered: May 2013
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interesting I never thought WH had a big ego or an ego at all. I never saw him as selfish and needing his ego stroked. He was so good at portraying himself as a strong person who didn't need people to kiss up to him. I knew he had FOO issues but I thought they were because his mother was very controlling and the fašade was important to her. I thought he just didn't want me to walk all over him like his mother did his dad. Boy was I wrong. I wonder how I missed it. Maybe because I was drowning in my FOO issues of trying to keep the peace and not feeling like I was the problem for our marital problems.

Me BW - 46
Him WH - 53
Together 23 yrs, Married 18
DDay August 2011
2 kids - 13 and 15

Gotta love the life that we livin'

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