I don't really hold any affection for my High School or College Years... In fact, since I lived at home for almost all of college and was dating my future first husband, I don't think I even met anyone I remember.
I have connected with a few high school classmates on FB... but it's hit or miss and not a very big deal to me.
FWSO is the complete opposite... He graduated 50 years ago and he still remembers everything about HS... teachers, kids... and talks to these people.
I don't have any understanding of this... I don't think there's anything wrong with it... I just don't understand.
Do you? Can you explain it to me?
Except for school I had an idyllic childhood.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
I visit her every couple of years and we talk on the phone once in awhile.
We are good friends.
For example, I have close friends from middle school that are dear to me. They have children now and I know their wives. I can call them anytime and they call me especially when I was going through my divorce.
I also loved college and was in a sorority and talk to those friends who live in all different states a few times a week even though we graduated close to 20 years ago.
For me it is about knowing I have true friends that will be honest and knew me before all this mess happened. They have been around me so their intention and advice is there to help and I enjoy seeing them happy.
I also enjoy knowing that one of my best friends still laughs the same way. It is comforting
I think also there are people who for whatever reason didn't have those type of friendships cross their path yet but it may happen or if it doesn't and they are happy then the friendships are neither here or there just the icing on life. For example, I think of some on SI as people who I know I would have been friends with in college and I have become close to them.
Hope that helps!
We have a closed FB group as well as being each others FB friends and two open FB pages about the school.
Xpos, on the other hand, has no use for, or good memories of our school. I'm glad for that, because that meant he would not be there to spoil it for me.
I am fortunate to have a number of good friends IRL that I can talk to about anything, that all support me in whatever I need, including 2x4s. Some are friends from 50+ years ago and one young friend DD's age that I have known for only about 10 or 12 years and many in between. I love them all and am very thankful for them.
I'm finding that, as we get older, more people join us at reunions and school alumni events. Maybe it is more of an age related thing for some?
College I have a few friends that I keep in touch with, and don't really have much nostalgia from it either. I do have a stack of pictures from those days, and they are hysterical to look at.
I'm in the boat that I didnt' really enjoy HS, and have not gone to any reunions, the few people I was good freinds with I have stayed in touch with. I couldn't give a darn about the rest. But then again, I wasn't one of the cool kids. LOL
and Ama! I'm sure you have a point...
Prior to Jr.High, I was very much a loner; I spent all of my free time reading, bird watching and day dreaming. In Jr. High I finally met people like me; my best friend for quite a few years spent the summer before jr. high reading the dictionary--my kind of people!
I hated school because I was bored to tears, but I didn't know it. My friends made my time in school bearable.