So when I emailed this IC to find out if she had availabilities, she had emailed me back and asked me to tell her what I was looking for to make sure she was a good fit. I kind of went on about what happened and used the terms NPD, passive aggressive, lack of empathy, emotionally and verbally abusive and codependency. She emailed me back and said it sounded like I was in therapy because I was using a lot of therapeutic words. I thought to myself...nope...I just have me SI! She probably thinks I'm a know it all.
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Good luck tomorrow! I hope it's a good fit!
You go girl!
Remember the IC is for you. If she can't help you, then keep looking. I like that she knows you are informed. She probably spent some time "preparing" for you!
You'll get there!
I kind of went on about what happened and used the terms NPD, passive aggressive, lack of empathy, emotionally and verbally abusive and codependency.
make me worry slightly that you might get stuck on the same unproductive path. But only slightly. Your comment about being empowered is fantastic. Work toward having that feeling as much as possible. That and being content and happy.
FWIW, you have given me a new goal. I want to feel empowered.
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
I am glad I waited. I really think he needed to show me who he was and I needed to realize it was him who was the broken one.
This is an important realization, one which will help you move forward, stay strong, and deal with the inevitable guilt & second-guessing that will pop up now & again. When I reached this stage there was no going back for me, and I knew it in my heart of hearts. Detachment had been reached and reconciliation was no longer possible.