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User Topic: Dealing with job ,Kids and Ex
♂ 39645
Member # 39645
Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love my kids very much they are my world!! I live in a state where I have no family and don't like to leave my kids with anyone . I just had to go to court to reduce visitation because I had to take off of work 6 days a month to watch my kids !! I love bein with them but I was putting myself in a hole ( money) my ex wouldn't work with me , she is very controlling !! In three years I have never missed a day with my kids and never late with child support , she is brain washing my kids now and I am having problems with my oldest!! She has my youngest calling her bf dad !! She says I'm a bad father because I put in to see my kids less but she wants her check every month and I have bills too!!! It's not easy bein a divorced dad with no family to help !!

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 31528
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm sorry. It is obvious that you love your children. Hopefully, the visitation change will be temporary. Sending you strength.

Posts: 50395 | Registered: Mar 2011
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having your children call another man Dad is wrong. You could seek legal remedy for this.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♂ 39645
Member # 39645
Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you ladies !!!

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 36060
Member # 36060
Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First, I would like to gently point out that you owe her the money regardless of visitation. That is money for your kids, so pay it on time and let go of any connection you have between that and visitation.

Was there any way to arrange an alternate schedule instead of less? Let's say you had the standard e/o weekend and weds evenings. If you worked late on weds, for example, you can arrange whatever day you want, as long as the ex agrees. The court does not care what the schedule is as long as both parties agree.

BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 751 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
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