Let me start by saying I'm sorry. This website gave me so much strength and support when I needed it the most and the rest of the world turned their back because they just don't understand. You all were here for me and I have stayed away from here mostly because I didn't need you. But when something I think is truly empowering happens I just had to come back and hopefully make someone smile and feel hope. Because I remember hope was the one thing I really needed back then.
This morning I woke up and remembered I had a connection I needed to approve in Linkedin. So I logged in to approve it and saw new people had seen my profile so of course I look to see who. Low and behold it's the girl DH had the last affair with. The "worst" of them all only because it was the only one that became physical and that she pretended to be friends with me to get closer to him all while she was married as well...
And you know what? After almost three years and seeing that little picture link (one from her wedding day how old is that?) it didn't anger me or upset me in anyway. Instead I sat there shocked and then I laughed. Wow. I haven't thought about her in awhile and could care less what she is doing or what she's up to. And that was a big shock to me. For the longest time I obsessed over her and how someone could be so low, I watched as she moved onto her next victim and her husband just denied it and stood behind her. And here she was, almost three years later and it's me who occupies her mind? LOL That was just too funny to me. Good. I'm happy, we are happy and the fact that she can't effect me anymore means that she has no power. She's truly nothing.
It doesn't feel like it now, I know, but someday the only thing that will matter again is the love you and your spouse have for each other. The only difference now is that I KNOW it's love now. Be strong, in the end it's worth it.
1st Dday 11/20/09
2nd Dday 11/20/10
3rd Dday 1/19/2015
Spent much time in R only to have a new Dday 1/19/2015
He has been diagnosed as a SA since 2010.