So, the news of our impending divorce is pretty much common knowledge. I get a lot of folks tell me how sorry they are I'm going through this. I always express my gratitude for their concern.
However, I also feel compelled to say something like this wasn't part of my life plan, I hate this is happening. I don't outright say she cheated. Some of my more bold acquaintances ask if there is someone else. This usually causes me pause, and I'll say something like STBXWW just didn't want to be married to me any longer, or I really don't want to discuss the details.
So, for whatever reason, saying we grew apart seems like bullshit, and I don't say that. I desperately wanted to stay married. And I don't feel like taking blame for her leaving. But now, knowing there's no way I could go back to the marriage, I still don't feel like saying we grew apart.
I never say she cheated on me for many reasons. I can accept my contribution to the marital problems, but I don't want to take blame for it falling apart either. Because I did work my ass off to make it a good marriage. To be a good partner.
Anyone else feel like this?