For me, being a type A personality, and always with a plan B..this has been so hard. I keep trying to decide where I'm going to go, and what I"m going to do.
Simple fact is...I have no fucking clue....and that HAS to be okay. I'm okay, my kids are okay, and we will take it day by day and figure it out as we go.
I know for me, I definetly wanna have a someone. The kicker is going to be able to understand that, that someone, is not the shitface, and should not pay for his sins.
dbellanon, you are entitled to happiness, to a someone a something, an anything you want!
I know for me, my goals have changed in the manner of expectations. I expected to have a husband, and my kids,and be happy. I planned on staying married and gave everything to a man who was unfaithful multiple times.
The one thing you can plan on in life, is never planning on anything.
Now, I think my goals are simpler. I no longer want to be "the perfect wife". That shit is exhausting.
I want to be me.
I can't speak for you, but for me, crawling back to myself and finding some semblance of who I am had been a challenge. I gave up so much to be with him,be like him, be liked by him, I lost something along the way.
I see the light though, it's coming. I will get there.
For right now, my kids are okay, I'm okay. We have a roof over our heads, food on our table and a great support system...and that is enough...for now.
I have no doubt that I will re-evaluate many, many times what I want out of my future.
My approach is simple: I live for my kids, and I live for me. The rest is just gravy