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User Topic: Second-hand inspiration.
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Member # 39236
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought about posting this in another thread I had started, but I think maybe it deserves its own place.

I recently made friends with another guy who has a daughter about a year younger than mine (my daughter is 3). They've had a few play dates together, and over the course of one conversation, I learned that he was actually the same age as my father. I knew that he was older, but did not know how much. His wife is younger than him, but on the outer borders of child-bearing age. They are expecting their second child tomorrow.

It all made sense when he explained that he already had two grown children from a previous marriage (about my age), that he had gotten divorced after 20 years of marriage.

The really incredible thing to me is that after all that, he started over, completely from scratch. New marriage. New babies. No idea if I would be doing the same thing in his situation, but since I don't have my own story of new beginnings to tell yet, I thought I might share someone else's.

[This message edited by dbellanon at 9:38 PM, June 25th (Tuesday)]

ME: BH, 32
Her: WW, 31
DD: 7
Married 6 Years.
DDay: Early May, 2013

Posts: 393 | Registered: May 2013
Sad in AZ
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Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My NB does not involve a relationship; it's just me by myself, and I'm enjoying it. Someday, there may be another person involved, but there will be no new family

I'm rediscovering hobbies like birding. I'm traveling to g2gs and experiencing things like the House of Prime Rib (shout-out to Jpapageorge & MU ) I'm living in a new city and experiencing the House of Pies (sense a theme here?? )

Life is good

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
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Member # 22033
Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfortunately, at my age, a second family isn't possible. This is one area where men do get that second shot at raising a child with a spouse, if they find someone younger.

BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

Posts: 3266 | Registered: Dec 2008
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 2:01 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will always regret that I'll never have an opportunity to raise children with a man who loves them, loves me, wants to be a father, wants to have a family, wants to be with us and have a life with us. I'll never know what that's like.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:54 AM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j me too NG, me too. I know what its like to be with a man desperate to pass on his genes but alas, unprepared for the beautiful and challenging realities that come with them.

Willing to sire but unwilling to be a father. His failure of them is the biggest, sharpest and most bitter of these pills to swallow.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6008 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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