My WH is one who has been admit in saying he will only get married once in his life because all of his family members have been married multiple times. During MC my WH brought this up just to let everyone know the commitment he is willing to show but our counselor turns on me like I am crazy for going through with this.
I still feel like the marriage I had is gone and I want a better stronger one for the future. I want vows that are not broken and will not be broken. Am i crazy for wanting this? Does anyone else get where I am coming from?
I don't consider myself married anymore. I hope that in time, I will want that commitment back, but for now, I am treading carefully.
We are committed to rebuilding our relationship and perhaps that will be enough for us.
I'm afraid that promises don't mean that much to me. ,If you can solemnly promise in front of God and witnesses to "forsake all others", then change your mind, what does that mean?
What exactly did your counsellor think you were crazy about?
[This message edited by FightingBack at 9:39 AM, June 26th (Wednesday)]
WH has agreed to getting a new ring, I just haven't done it yet. I feel like we are making progress with our relationship, but I guess I want to wait for the new ring and somehow renew vows once I feel more secure in this R being "real"
Soo, in the meantime he is still wearing the old ring..he says the ring means something to him and he "needs" to wear it. It is still a trigger if I realize the ring is touching my hand, but I can look at it and be ok now.
I am still wearing my ring. My position is that my vows weren't broken to him and nothing is wrong with my ring.
Anyway, I totally relate to what you are saying. My plan is for us to just do a private vow renewal, maybe your WH will go for that? Best of luck
I understand about you wanting new vows-unbroken vows - and I said I wanted that some point. Now I'm going back and forth about it.
#1 BD 4/13
Then R ( at least I thought I was in R )
#2 BD 1/15
Hired atty 3/15