I'm not one to multiple date once I'm attracted to someone. If I've had a nice first date and we've planned a second one, I don't keep looking or communicating with potential on line "suitors". And lately this hasn't been an issue as I haven't had many second dates. And even the second date guy didn't turn into a third date guy! I think having several conversations going on at the same time makes sense to me as many times the conversations fizzle out and don't lead to a date.
For some quirky reason my OLD profile is getting lots of attention lately, leading to several "would you like to start communicating" inquiries. Again, I see nothing wrong with having several conversations going at the same time (see my previous post for a small problem with that thinking )
And now this. I've had 3 phone conversations with this guy but we haven't met yet. He's great on the phone, easy to talk to, intelligent, seems emotionally intelligent etc. I'm starting to like him a lot. We plan to meet this Saturday. And I find myself wanting to shut down the other communications that I've already started,the one's that sound like they may be leading to a "would you like to meet" conversation.
One of my problems that I have been working on regarding dating is that I get overly invested overly eager sometimes, I have put all my eggs in one basket, made up in my mind something that isn't reciprocated etc...and I don't want to do that with this guy. Am I doing that with this guy? I live too many tomorrows ahead of today...when I like someone. What if, what if, what if...ykwim?
So your advice on this, please wise SI amigos: Do I keep communicating with the 2 other people I've already started conversations with? Do I start a conversation with the other interesting guy who just sent me a OLD message? Do I express interest to the ones who have contacted me but with whom I haven't started a conversation? Do I let things sit and simmer until after Saturday? Cuz really it is only 4 days away, I can certainly postpone communications for 4 days, it happens all the time. Great on paper and great on phone don't necessarily mean great connection. That's the answer, right? Slow the hell down???
ARGH let the over thinking and over analyzing by better4me begin.
[This message edited by better4me at 10:27 AM, June 26th (Wednesday)]