Do you want/have full legal custody of your children? If you do, what were your reasons for wanting it? If you chose to have shared legal custody, what were your reasons?
I will be going back to court on tomorrow and there may be a slight, small, tiny, itty-bitty chance that we will be able to come to an agreement regarding all the issues about the divorce.
I will be asking for full legal custody. My thinking is that if something should happen to me, my stbx will not be able to care for my children. This is what concerns me the most:
1. Possible untreated/undiagnosed mental illness OR really poor coping skills. Suicide attempt, suicidal idealizations and passive suicide behaviors, and his threat to shoot himself in the head and have the children find him. All extremely serious and alarming but he gave an excuse (minimized and blame-shifted) for every single episode.
2. As of today, no relationship with both children.
3. Both kids have special needs. While we were together, he did not know how to deal with their special needs so the full responsibility was mine.
Now maybe there is a small chance that if something should happen to me, he may step up to the plate but if past behavior is an indication of future behavior, well then ... no.
I know there is a saying here that goes something like "Is this the hill you are willing to die on?" I feel it is but I need others perspective in case I am not being rational and I don't even see it Thank you!!