My question is: Can a person be a Sex Addict and still have a LT affair with one person?
I'm not sure Reconciliation is the right place for this but I found out about WH's 2+ year affair with a business associate a little over 3 months ago, so it doesn't feel like I "just found out." I knew something was awry for over 2 years but had been getting the gaslight treatment every time I approached the subject. Even after I confronted him with evidence that ended up being the puzzle pieces that made everything clear, he continued to deny until I found yet MORE evidence and confronted him about it in the middle of the night. I now realize I am a "co-addict" and that WH has a lot of traits of being SA (enjoys porn, secret life, avoids emotional intimacy, acted out when he could not engage in his "ritual", became even more bold ad out in the open about his relationship with OW, experienced childhood trauma, has attachment issues, allowed this secret life to adversely affect career/income/finances).
We have been in MC since March but recently switched to a counselor specifically trained in PTSD/emotional-sexual intimacy issues and both of us feel like we are in more capable hands in terms of guidance. The issue of WH possible being SA came up and he has agreed to be evaluated by a CSAT (different than our MC). We are trying to work things out.
Any sharing of real life experiences would be greatly appreciated.