"I am writing you to inform you that your wife and my husband had an affair last year that to my knowledge ended on September (?), 2012. In all honesty I have been looking for your contact information since I found out about the affair on (DDay)). I am also writing in the hopes that should you have any information I do not have, that you might share it with me.
The inappropriate, emotional aspect of the affair started while they were working (in our hometown).
It continued with unprotected sexual relations at the hotel (in another town), at the beginning of June. Shortly after my husband's return home, your wife showed up in (in our hometown) and the affair continued during the entirety of her stay.
My husband visited (your hometown) in July for less than a week and stayed in your apartment with your wife.
According to my husband sexual relations ceased temporarily until your wife's later trip to (our hometown) at the beginning of September, which would have been the last time they had sex, if the information I have is correct. The last time they saw each other was in (our hometown) on the night of September (?). My husband has told me they did not go to your wife's hotel room, but did meet.
My husband has informed me that there were concerns at that time and all throughout their affair regarding timing of sexual relations and risk of pregnancy because your wife was not on birth control and they were not using any. Any child born to your wife between March and June 2013 should have its paternity questioned. We would appreciate being informed if there is indeed a child being born to your family imminently, or was born recently.
Your wife and my husband attempted to keep "professional" contact until early December 2012, at which time, and according to what I have been able to ascertain contact ceased.
The secret email account they used during the affair is: (insert email address here)
I have been diagnosed since their affair with (an STD).
Sincerely, Knowing"
We are in R.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
I sure would hate to be her husband getting that email though. We all know the hell he is facing.
Hope the calls go well. You did the right thing, not an easy thing either.
Just remind yourself that every moment you wait to make the call will create angst as well, at least equal to the call itself. Either way, waiting to call or making the call is stressful.
Just curious...did your WH not reveal BH's name? Or did he not know it? Why was it so hard to find assuming you knew the OW's name. Just curious, not that important right now with the impending call.
All I had was a first name for him and his profession. As it turns out he has a completely different last name, she doesn't use her married name. I finally came across something with her married name.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
2Beautiful daughters DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed) DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)
In R
*fingers crossed* for a good phone call.
me too....good luck
"Greetings!
Dear Knowing,
I received your email. Thank you.
I'm currently traveling on business (out of the country). Is there a telephone number I can reach you? My cell phone number is...
Also, could you please send any future correspondence to my personal email account at: (email address)
Many thanks and best regards, MCOW's BH"
[This message edited by Knowing at 2:07 PM, June 27th (Thursday)]
And maybe he has known for a while. Maybe he doesn;t care....who knows. You did the right thing.
You did great.
