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User Topic: Her Neediness and my Anger
♀ 39461
Member # 39461
Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ohhhh this is difficult...

since my last post, I've talked to my family about confronting and my decision not to stay in this relationship. our twin daughters are completing one of life's milestones and starting another. we also have a lot of family time planned. so my family advised me and i agreed to wait 2 mths to get my ducks in a row, and concentrate on the kids, save a bit of money. i can see all the texts between them and he does try to see her everyday. without a question this is an EA but there is no proof within these texts that it hasn't gone physical. heavy flirting on his part, she doesn't respond back, usually just a "lol".

within the last week or so, I've noticed she has become very needy towards him. just today, she has texted him 10 times wondering when he was coming over even though he told her we where attending our children's graduation. she also has started complaining to him how she has no friends and how lonely she is.

I find this increase of neediness is really making me angry!!!! I don't like feeling this way. I do relaxing techniques and they do work but omg this pisses me off!!!

I just needed to vent

[This message edited by iammine at 9:45 PM, June 26th (Wednesday)]

Posts: 45 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
♂ 14866
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are ending this relationship so focus on getting things in order to progress to the next step. You can also start detaching from the situation which should help you in not reacting to the OW.

[This message edited by MovingUpward at 6:51 AM, June 27th (Thursday)]

Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007
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Member # 37043
Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It would take incredible willpower, but can you stop looking at the texts? I assume you have plenty of evidence should you need it? Or you can still track the texts without looking at them?

If you absolutely need to look at them, can you set parameters? As in, you won't look at them all day long, but just once a day or every other day?

Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.

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