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A woman I messaged replied, and I'm all Hallelujah about it, 'cause judging from the profile alone, she's an 11 on every scale.

So I most carefully compose a reply to her reply. Did a wonderful job making it sound like it was all off the cuff, even though I spent some time on it. Clicked send.

Then notice that a bunch of text that I thought I had cut was still there, so there was all this crazy repetition. I mean, it was inane.

Please tell me some of you have done that sort of shit. Please?

Write back really quick and tell her your computer had the hiccups!

((((OIAL)))) That stuff happens all the time. ALL the time. Keep breathing - you're fine.

Too late for damage control, Sad.

I wish these dating sites would give me 2 minutes to retract a message after I send it. So much carnage would be prevented.

FWIW, I've done that on job-hunting cover letters.

FWIW, I've done that on job-hunting cover letters

Yeah, but you're *expected* to edit the hell out of those.

Relax. Just today I saw on this site someone post FIVE times! Sometimes the phone or computer blips and shit happens. If t makes it better then send a follow up "oops...technology challenged" message. Seriously, it happens to everyone so just roll with it and make the best of it.

OK, relaxing. :)

One other blunder as well, which was kind of funny. She asked what my summer plans were, so I told her it would be just occasional little getaways. Then I asked if she had any plans to make me jealous.

What I meant, in a playful sense, was did she have any plans that I would be jealous of.

But it's all OK. I figure if she responds I'll have gotten the necessary flubs out of my system early.

I had a similar cringe worthy moment.

I was on Match. At the time my son had a FB account and I did not have one. His was permanently logged in on my phone so I could monitor activity.

Well I searched for a guy I was chatting with on Match, via FB and had a good look at his account. Just to check he was who he said he was.

Whilst scrolling I accidentally sent a friends request to him ..... From my son!!!!!!!

I spent a few hours totally mortified and wondering what to do. My son has a different surname as I use my maiden name... But the guy would still have worked out who it was in about 5 mins.

So I bit the bullet... Emailed him, told him the story and he promptly said here is my number ....... Would you like to go for a drink this weekend.

We dated over last summer and whenever people asked how we met... He told them "she stalked me on FB". We always laughed about it together.

We are no longer together but have remained friends.

So my tip would be to send a message and be honest. She may appreciate it more than you think.

A guy who had clearly spent time thinking and choosing his words wisely would score points with me. And also one who is honest enough to admit he slipped up and who can laugh it off

Yup....send a message that your computer had a hiccup.

She would understand what happened. I like the hiccups reference.

Don't see this as a dealbreaker - see it as an ice-breaker.

Oh OIAL - you're the Calamity Jane of Dating. Just be you, friend. I think its endearing.

Unless of course your note said "Fucktity Fuck Fuck Shit. Fuck."

Remember she has probably come across a few 'Mr Stallion Beefcake Mancandy's in OLD. *shudder*

Please tell me you are journaling your escapades.

I can so see a sitcom about your experiences.

AJ's MOM

It's never too late for damage control. "I logged in and was re-reading this and noticed that I sent part of it twice - not sure how that happened! sorry if it came across as weird or confusing" is a perfectly appropriate thing to send the next morning.

Please tell me you are journaling your escapades.

I can so see a sitcom about your experiences.

"Everyone Loves OIAL"

Tonight at 7 on the WB!

Yup....send a message that your computer had a hiccup.

But it did not.

-t2g

OK, riddle me this. After my inane response to her message, she responded with not another message, but a smile (similar to match's wink feature).

Translation?

Well, the ball's in her court. I asked her some questions, and a smile is not a response.

Does Match show whether the message was read? Maybe she needs to time to respond but wanted to acknowledge that she read it?

Just write her back real quick and apologize for the errors but its hard to type when she is rocking your world!!!

Well, the ball's in her court. I asked her some questions, and a smile is not a response.

Well if you want to be tit for tat about dating I guess. But if you're interested, message her again. (And fwiw, a smile is a response, just not the one you wanted).

I would take a smile to mean that she liked what she read.

Sometimes you don't know what to say but you want to respond to let the other person know that you are still engaged inthe conversation. That's how I take this.