This is the woman that wanted to continue things with him after finding out he had a pregnant wife and a child.
his emails to her were too friendly for my taste. one of them said how he had done something on one of the projects so it would be faster and easier for her. That's how he phrased it to her 'so it'll be faster and easier for you.'
Why couldn't he just sending the effing files without having to include crap like that!?
I found those emails in the deleted bin, as well.
After him telling me that he NEEEEEEVER deletes anything.
The work email is the only one I don't have constant access to. I have access to his home email, his phone and ipad when I want them, and our wireless account information.
I found out he lied to me about the location of his new job too.
He knows how important honesty is to me, that our marriage is on very thin ice, but he just can't stop himself.
I feel so disgusted
D-Day, June 10, 2012
(((twodoves))) I'm so sorry you found there was more contact. I'm not sure if you have been asked this or not but have you asked him to leave his job?
I know there is no way I could handle that. My WH was MOW's employer and I still gave him the ultimatum of fire her or lose me. He fired her and took the risk of a sexual harassment lawsuit too, idiot
He knows how much is on the line and he won't stop lying
My WH has serious FOO issues. Grew up with an abusive mother and learned to lie to survive sometimes, but it sure doesn't help in this situation.
I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Have you talked to him about what you discovered?
I can't take the lies anymore.
He swore to me last night that he's done lying. This is it. One more experience like this and i feel divorce is our only option.
I've been telling him to please be honest with me, it's the only way we can work on things.. It's the most basic building block.
He knows how much is at stake and he still LIES. He knows how close I am to taking my girls and leaving.
And of all people, that effing woman
What behavior will you accept? What behavior will you not accept? What will you do if he continues to lie? IMO, I think leaving, or better yet, making him leave, is a perfectly valid choice.
My FWH still works with the OW, and the lying about their interactions would be a dealbreaker for me. They are no longer allowed to have a relationship that I don't get to know about.
My heart is broken all over again.
He cared more about her feelings than mine.
I knew he didn't truly end things with her. We even talked about her in marriage counseling.
His lying is another issue, and needs to be addressed in IC.