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My WH is overseas for 3 weeks and it seems all I can think about is what he did to me. I'm crying again and angry, and I feel so alone. The same thing happened when I was at a conference for a few day's a couple weeks ago.

My IC said this is the perfect time to work on me, to separate myself from him. Not to think about what he did. But I can't seem to help it.

Before he left we talked about prostitutes overseas and the possibility of the company using girls to entertain. He assured me that none of that will happen and I believe him. We email and call.

Actually I think sometimes he is afraid I might have a RA because I have talked about it in the past. He said he would never want to know if I ever did. I have even gone so far as to look on CL, but never really considered it. Not my thing and reading here has REALLY showed me that it is absolutely not a good thing. But I'm off topic.

When he is home I mostly, as much as I can, to think about R, but when he is gone it's almost like dday all over again.

Why is this? Maybe I need to stay off SI while he is gone. I'm trying to stay busy. I have 17 yo twins that they and their friends are driving me crazy! (not really, they are good kids). I'm going out some.

I don't know why I am so blue when he is not here.

When I was going through the thick of it all, I spent hours on SI usually in General. Many days I became triggery or depressed after reading and replying to so many posts.

Step away (at least from General) for a few days. Come down to Fun and Games and play a game or two. Or distract yourself in Off Topic. It might help you relax a bit.

Thanks gahurts, I have never really explored other parts of SI. I will give it a try.

(((letitout)))
It's so hard when they are gone! My H was out of the country shortly after DDay for a few months, what a nightmare! However, I did appreciate the time I did have to take care of myself. It seemed like I did ok keeping busy during the day, but the nights were more difficult. At the time I hadn't found SI yet, but wished I had. I could have used the support!
Please send me a PM if you would like to chat a bit more. Sadly I know all about prostitutes and working out of the country.
I also know it's so helpful go through this with people who understand!
Take care of yourself!