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With all my emotions this morning, I omitted telling my readers an up to date version of my H lies.

The night he came home (was away working for 8 weeks) he tells me that the very first confession he told me (the ONS) in 2007 was a lie. A lie he told me to cover from the real lie. To this moment, I truly do not understand that whole scene! So, ya, no ONS in 2007, just a 2 night stand with this women in Germany in 1997. So, I live with that information for 2 weeks.

Saturday, June 22, discovered porn on his cell phone, which he had promised me to more porn, that led to more ugly f... sex acts.

Tells me while he was doing laundry, (oh, he says, 3 4 years ago)(turns out to be last year) he met this women, she approached him, he invited her to his room and they had oral sex.

So, this info was told to me just a few days ago. How much can a women take. I am still sane, working and trying to understand, and sort all this in my mind.

I truly felt, I was done with this. Thought, within time and lots of love, we would get through this ordeal!

He needs to come clean and tell you everything..NOW.

What he is doing is called trickle truth..it's torture and sets your healing back each time he does it.

((((LBS))))
He is slowly killing any chance of keeping his M. A person can only take so much of this kind of abuse, and will cry uncle sooner than later.
You need to lay down the law with him. He needs to come clean, any and all indescretions, no matter how big or small. Then you get to decide if you want to R or not at that point.

I am so sorry he is doing this to you.

((((and strength))))

That is the worst kind of torture. It's ripping you apart...I remember that feeling, and it's like he shoots you with a gun with every disclosure. Tell him you need full disclosure, and take action.

In the beginning, and I was there, no matter what we all tell you its like your mind can't wrap itself around it all. Its just too overwhelming.

Yet I will tell you that sadly this is just the tip of the iceburg. You will find out more whether he takes the poly or not. But you won't accept it until its time for your brain to digest it all. Right now you think you can manage it, you think he is telling the truth....but deep down inside you are scared and afraid of what you will really find out so you shut down that part.

When you are ready you will know.