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XH has been taking money for personal use such as payment of credit cards and utilities from our joined account through which our rental incomes and expenses are supposed to run.

So, I send him a friendly notice that this is not acceptable and not allowed as per our Marital Settlement Agreement.

In response, XH claims I owe him a total of $2100 for various expenses paid and that he is entitled to the money. I demanded detailed accounting and got a two-liner per email with no details just claims how much I owe him.

So, I killed a couple of beers and some hours today while on vacation and documented every transaction on our joined account as of the beginning of the year which is the start date for all our agreements per MSA, corresponded with our insurance and got all payment details, balances and insurance premiums per car and house and went through all health insurance premiums and each claim since the beginning of the year.

I created a large spreadsheet with individual worksheets, added formulas to calculate each parties' share in debits and credits and voila - even after deducting everything I owe him for HOA fees and insurance premiums paid, he still owes the joined account US$ 600.

Goes to show, it is worth checking everything they say and do when money is involved. $600 pays a nice chunck of my vacation

Yup, sounds about right. Mine thoroughly sucks at finances too.

Wow!

I guess we should call you Catwoman Jr.

Impressive.

AJ's MOM

The sad thing is, xh used to work as a banker for the longest time and has been a Financial Advisor for the past 10 years.... I am worried for his customers.

Ah, but don't you see, you are the Little Woman, who, as the helpless (ex)spouse of Mr. Wonderful, cannot POSSIBLY do that "math thing." Let alone think for one single moment that, gasp! he might not have your best interests at heart!

I'm lifting my beer to you.

Love our they under estimate their spouses like we are stupid.

Go after your $600 and enjoy the cocktails (insert beverage of choice) you will buy with it on your holiday.

Oh yes, he told everybody I can't handle money and would be broke and in the poor house without him.

Well, Mr Douche, looks like you are the one struggling :-) He is supplementing his income in order to afford his lavish lifestyle that he keeps showing OW.

I sent the spreadsheet and all hell has broken lose. Yes, it hurts when the truth stares you in the face. At this point he is reaching low, throwing the kids 30/month cellphone charges at me. Never mind, that I have paid airfare twice for them to attend events on his family side and to enable them to go on a nice summer vacation. Did I mention the 200$ for my daughters soccer registration, 160$ for their passport renewal and the fact my budget is still balanced and my savings account growing st a steady pace? He is also now telling me I have to pay off my car first with our settlement money rather than the last credit card I owe some money on. I told him if he wants to throw in a few extra hundred to cover the interest on the cc, I am game. Ah, the fantasy land of an XH - as if he had any control.