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User Topic: I'm just mean anymore!
♀ 24621
Member # 24621
Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While catching up with a good friend of mine/former coworker over lunch the other day, she asks me how things are going. I tell her about the unending emotional rollercoaster and that he has been doing what he needs to do, etc etc etc. I then show her pics from my son's first birthday day and she notices in one particular pic, that WH has an ice his legs (while sitting in a chair). She asks what was up with that?

My response? "If he's gonna act like a dog, then I'm gonna to treat him like a dog. He got neutered."

She practically died laughing, said I was a mean bitch but absolutely mind you, I haven't said something like that to anyone else...I still am "trying" to treat WH with dignity and respect although I struggle with that...and that's a personal flaw of mine. I'm working on it. I felt bad for all of half a second, but ever since 2nd DDay, I'm just pissed off....ALL the time. I feel like such a mean person anymore....not that I was particularly "nice" before but not like this!

Anyone else struggling with this??

BW (me) 31
WH 33
DS1 8 yrs.
DS2 1 yr.

Anniversary 6/09/04
DDay 6/27/09
Wedding 3/15/12
DDay2 5/5/13

presently working towards...well i don't know anymore...

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Philly, PA
♀ 28837
Member # 28837
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Luv_lost, I know what you mean.

I pretty much left the human race for 5 1/2 years after d-day, except for family, and then it was a free flow of snarky comments, no restraint.

Now, I feel like I might want to rejoin humanity. Maybe make a friend. . .

These days I try to treat FWH respectfully. Venomous outbursts are rare. Not absent, but rare.

All of that emotion of betrayal must be dealt with and worked out with time.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Jun 2010
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh gods. Last Saturday, I had my LARS T-Shirt on (large animal rescue) while FWH and I were picking up a rotortiller. Some guy jokingly asked me, what the largest animal was that I had ever rescued, and I replied, a pregnant cow down a well. Then he nodded his head at FWH and asked if I had rescued him. Without even thinking, I said that I was considering putting him down for being too damaged to rescue.

Everyone in the repair shop howled with laughter except for FWH and I. Imagine that ...

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 9903 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Member # 36474
Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From Delores Claiborne:

Vera Donovan: Sometimes you have to be a high-riding bitch to survive.

Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.

I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.

Posts: 449 | Registered: Aug 2012
♀ 36445
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol I made my ex get neutered after the first DD of a PA, as well.

My reasoning it was bad enough to do this crap to me, but to do it to your kids that is beyond cruel you are supposed to protect their mother, we are gonna fix this that you can't do this anymore children.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

Posts: 1530 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
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