Strong, you hit the nail on the head.
Happy Pants likes the idea of being a father, but doesn't want commitment or discipline...whatsoever.
DD for him is for ego and he has actually said to her, "If you don't stop that, I will leave". Like when she was upset or wanted her own way.
He also lies to her and it shames me to hear.
She doesn't know about OW or the true reasons he left-other OMD (Outside Marriage Dating) because I wanted her to have her KISA for a while longer in her life and felt she was ruined by him enough.
Yes, I miss her and have separation anxiety since he abandoned us. She has it also. It's pretty terrible and more so to see or hear.
And yes, even when I'm busy or she's just at school, I miss her.
He told me once at the beginning that he missed her, but I don't know if it was "drama for yo mama" or real. It wasn't enough to not abandon us or come back when he still had a chance, KWIM?
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.