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Amazonia posted 6/27/2013 16:53 PM

One of my favorite shows is Necessary Roughness, I'll admit I started watching it because she was getting divorced while I was getting divorced but I'm a psychology junkie, so I love some of the gems.

One from this week's episode:

The secret to patience is finding something else to do in the mean time..

What are you waiting for? And how are you filling the "mean time"?

Amazonia posted 6/27/2013 16:56 PM

I'll start - I'm waiting on a job offer. One that has been pending for a while. One for what I think could be my dream job. It's not supposed to start for another couple months, so patience has been and remains highly necessary.

Honestly, I'm not doing a very good job filling my mean time. School starts soon and that will help, because I will be mind numbingly busy, and I am planning a vacation to Chicago and Texas in the fall, which is fun because I love researching things.

What about you?

h0peless posted 6/27/2013 16:56 PM

I think I'm waiting for some semblance of stability in my life. (I assume you're asking why one would wait to start dating, etc.) I'd like to have my feet under me and my baggage dealt with before I inflict myself on someone else.

In the mean time, I'm taking a lot of unnecessary risks. Maybe not the most healthy thing to do but it sure is a lot of fun.

Amazonia posted 6/27/2013 17:07 PM

I assume you're asking why one would wait to start dating, etc.

I actually didn't mean this as a dating specific post, but waiting to date (or waiting for a specific kind of relationship to come along) could realistically be an option here.

I have a "bad habit" of starting threads in NB that have nothing to do with dating.

Crescita posted 6/27/2013 17:08 PM

Well Iím waiting to buy a home, start a family, travel, travel, travel.

In the meantime, Iím paying down debt, saving, going to the gym, planning a fabulous 30th bday trip to the Grand Canyon, working on better eating, trying to organize my wee abode. I think I need some more concrete short term goals because I always feel like Iím falling short on everything I am doing in the meantime and it makes the stuff Iím really waiting for seem so unattainable.

Nature_Girl posted 6/27/2013 18:20 PM

I'm not really "waiting" which in my mind implies doing nothing, but in my "mean time" I'm looking fervently for a full-time job. I feel like I could make a much better go of a NB if I actually had an income.

I'm also waiting to get through the Big D, but I won't mention that. Even though it is somewhat preventing me from fully getting on with my NB.

I have four major goals for this year of "mean time". One, the Big D. Two, get a job. Three, take back my name. Four, college. That last one may not be able to happen, but I remain ever hopeful!

inconnu posted 6/27/2013 18:35 PM

I am waiting for a call from HR to set up an interview. I talked to tentative future boss last week. This is my sister's former boss who went to a different company. He finally called me. He's got a new project starting in about a month, with a jr level position on the team available. I just need to get through the interview process, which hasn't started yet.

I'm waiting until I can afford to do some of the house projects I need to do.

In the meantime, I'm not sure how patient I'm being, though.

million pieces posted 6/27/2013 18:41 PM

I'm waiting to start my life w my SO. We have plans, but live an hour apart and have very entrenched lives in each of our areas. Not to mention if we moved, our kids wouldn't live near their other parent.

So, while I'm waiting for things to be less complicated, I'm focusing on my house (totally neglected in past 3.5 yrs) and my health (neglected too). I signed up for the Baltimore 1/2 Marathon and I'm on week 2 of training. When I turned on my Garmin, the last run it recorded was Feb 2010 (dday). FTG!!!!! I was a really good runner and I miss it. And I am back!!!!

peacelovetea posted 6/27/2013 20:07 PM

I suppose I am waiting for my degree to be finished, but that feels a lot more like working my ass off than waiting!

I think part of my NB is to quit waiting for the "next thing" that would make things "better" and to make things better now. I have spent the break between quarters so far prepping the deck railings for painting, painting some closet doors, sorting through paper piles... and yesterday I made duct tape swords with my kids, increasing my Cool and Nerd rankings exponentially with them. I am also being sure I am spending lots of time with various friends, and of course the manfriend. I got myself a brand new bike (used, but much higher end than my previous one) and I plan to commute to school via bike and bus this summer.

I spent years being a SAHM with crippling anxiety and a SN kiddo who was nearly impossible to take anywhere because he was aggressive and rude, and then as a broken-down hermit after the A. NO MORE.

Sad in AZ posted 6/27/2013 20:12 PM

Nothing! I do it as soon as I think of it--at this age, who knows what will happen

tesla posted 6/27/2013 20:34 PM

I am waiting to start my epic travels around the world.

In the meantime, I'm getting my master's and saving for those epic treks!

nutmegkitty posted 6/27/2013 20:38 PM

I am filling the "mean time" with yoga, exercise, trying to be thankful for what I have, and actively parenting my girls.

I'm not sure what I'm waiting for just yet. Hopefully that will come to me, soon!

caregiver9000 posted 6/27/2013 20:45 PM

I don't really have an answer for your question, but I LOVE LOVE that show! It is my favorite thing to watch on tv. TK the character is perfect in my mind, but he makes me realize that I have a strong attraction to the needy.

Not sure how I feel about the new job/character line-up... Do you like it Ama?

Amazonia posted 6/27/2013 20:55 PM

Cg9 - I like that Dani is near Nico and away from Matt I don't like her new boss (Stamos) or assistant AT ALL though, they give me the creeps! A bit too "Stepford" for me.

caregiver9000 posted 6/28/2013 00:06 AM

Oh, yeah... Nico... Definitely like him. Strong, silent, maybe dangerous, capable. sigh...

But who is he spying on? spying for??

I haven't gotten used to the corporate environment in place of the team environment. Liked last season a lot!!

I am so happy to have a fellow fan!

Bluebird26 posted 6/28/2013 01:25 AM

For time to pass a bit and to save some money as I seem to be bleeding money right now.

I am waiting to start dating till my kids are a few years older, I have one kiddo full time the other one 26 days of the month so no time free at the moment to even contemplate that type of NB. Once they are a few years older I will be able to go out a bit more providing they are responsible teenagers.

But in that time I will work on me and my future, hoping to start some study in the near future, lose some more weight and get fitter both physically & mentally.

hurtinky posted 6/28/2013 07:41 AM

For the most part, my life is where I want it. I am in my last home (unless I have no real choice), my kids are grown, married, successfully reproducing , and they are independent and happy. I have the job I want. I will always grieve, to a certain extent, that my marriage ended because I truly loved him and wanted to always be with him. But, I don't want to date nor do I desire to be in another relationship.

So I guess the thing I'm waiting on is retirement. I have things I want to do when I retire. So it will be a wonderful time, I'm sure.

In the meantime, I'm working as much as I can, to save money for retirement. I'm concentrating on my health so I can have a good retirement.

I view retirement as a great big new beginning. It makes me feel good about getting older.

cmego posted 6/28/2013 07:43 AM

I think I'm waiting to finish school and start looking for work...within the next year that process will start.

Freaks me out a little, but I'm excited too!

Williesmom posted 6/28/2013 08:44 AM

I am waiting to get out of some of the marital debt to be able to travel.

I am waiting for the man of my dreams to become the man that I need him to be. I also need to meet him.

I am waiting for the right time to sell my house and move closer to my job.

kernel posted 6/28/2013 19:36 PM

I am waiting for my land (40 acres) to sell. I am land rich and cash poor. Selling it would take care of a lot of divorce debts, and let me save for some travels on my bucket list.

I am waiting for a man of my dreams to show up in my life. I'm not to the point of actively seeking one out yet so maybe I'm actually waiting for the nerve to get out there!

I'm waiting for the housing market here to improve to the point where homes actually are an investment. It's holding steady at the moment but not gaining in value. I'll be selling when things improve.

In the meantime, I'm working full time and trying to chip away at my debts. Eating a lot healthier and exercising a lot more. I've also decided to go for the online degree and just suck it up and take out a student loan to do it. I'm also just learning how to be me again, and how to do things just for me. I've tried massage and acupuncture - love them both. Next up is a healthy weight training circuit program. I've also been focussing on enjoying the little things in every day life.

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