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northernarea posted 6/27/2013 18:07 PM

It has been 26 since months since by affairs were discovered. Since then, we have been involved with three seperate couples therapists and we each are seeing an individual therapist. At our last joint session, it was suggested that I go and see a grief therapist. I dont think I can do it. The thought of going to see someone else and retelling my story again just seems like it would be emotionally exhausting. Am I wrong in feeling this way? I just dont feel that I am mentally able to tell my story yet again.

stilllovinghim posted 6/27/2013 18:24 PM

Get used to it. I'm 4 yrs out since d-day and talked about it yesterday during a psych eval and it'll be brought up again at my upcoming psychiatrist apt. Every new obgyn, general practicioner, blood drive, etc. I have to let them know.

So suck it up and get used to it.

[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 6:26 PM, June 27th (Thursday)]

badchoice posted 6/27/2013 21:13 PM

Yes, it's hard, but it is time to show your commitment to you and your BS's healing.

The thought of going to see someone else and retelling my story again just seems like it would be emotionally exhausting.

I just dont feel that I am mentally able to tell my story yet again.

This is selfish thinking. You are letting your feelings rule the day. You need to act based on your commitments, not how you feel.

northernarea posted 6/27/2013 22:02 PM

I am sucking it up, I been sucking it up for 26 months. I guess I am selfish for thinking of myself for one day. I know I will always live with this, and I try to work each day at it.

hardlessons posted 6/27/2013 22:44 PM

Why do you think that after 2 years you are still the hamster in the wheel?

JustDesserts posted 6/28/2013 06:02 AM

Could you please share WHY it was suggested you see the grief therapist? To grieve WHAT? It would help me to have a clear understanding. Thank you.

uncertainone posted 6/28/2013 09:00 AM

To grieve what? His mom died. That hits people pretty hard.

I think people are being a bit harsh. Yeah, your choices were horrible. It's also not wrong to feel tired. Digging through this pain is NOT easy and tired is a very valid response at times.

It was mentioned on another thread that you couldn't post with a stop sign because you were a madhatter. I didn't see that anywhere in your posts.

JustDesserts posted 6/28/2013 09:11 AM

To grieve what? His mom died. That hits people pretty hard.

I had no idea that that is what he was referring to, hence my asking for clarification.

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