@crazy blindsided- thank you for your reply. I believe you are right about OW needing to feel less used and lying. I like that you pointed out her now being an outsider, that is so true! I hadn't thought of that.
@LoveActually- thank you for your comment and hug :). You're right about the words not having very much value since he's working with me and with me.
@Sri- thank you for your response,it helped a lot. The point you made about the words having just been a part of the affair was especially helpful. It hurts still but if I look at it that way, it means so much less.
@fourever- I'm glad this thread and the comments from the ladies could help you too. I'm so happy they shared their wisdom because it was driving me crazy!