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Divorce/Separation :
Feeling low. Finally had the dreaded talk.

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 Housefulloflove (original poster member #38458) posted at 1:55 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

Today I decided to bite the bullet and have a talk with the kids about the divorce.

As expected my girls took it well. My son did not. Seeing his tears means I am not either. :(

It's so surreal that I even had to have that conversation. If someone would have told me a year ago exactly where I would be right now and why, I would not have believed them.

It's moments like this that make me regret the day I ever met the POS. I chose SO badly when I chose him to be my husband and father of my children and now my children have to have moments like this because I failed at recognizing him for the disordered and unfaithful POS that he is.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 1:56 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

(((((HUGS)))))

I know it hurts. It hurts.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:57 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

((((housefulloflove)))) What you're feeling is completely normal. Take it easy on yourself, honey.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:57 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

(((House)))

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:42 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

(((((house))))

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 3:15 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

(((Housefulloflove)))

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken

There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:36 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

Please know you're not alone.

I can handle what he did/does to me - I chose him. I'm still dripping with regret for choosing him for them.

((Housefulloflove)) It won't always hurt this bad. I promise.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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abigailadams ( member #37556) posted at 5:25 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

The worst day is when you tell your children. Nothing hurts like seeing their pain. It will get better. And they will recover because you are there for them

Me BS 55
Him WS 53
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012

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Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 7:03 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

(((Housefulloflove)))

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

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numbandnauseous ( member #34525) posted at 7:37 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013

house - I am so sorry. We are having the talk soon too and I am dreading it.

You and your children wil get through this - one step at a time, one tear at a time, one hug at a time. As you user name says, you have a house full of love and nothing can destroy that!

((((((((housefulloflove and children))))))

[This message edited by numbandnauseous at 1:38 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]

BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)

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