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Topic: Feeling low. Finally had the dreaded talk.
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Housefulloflove
♀ 38458
Member # 38458 |  Posted: 7:55 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 |     |
Today I decided to bite the bullet and have a talk with the kids about the divorce.
As expected my girls took it well. My son did not. Seeing his tears means I am not either. :(
It's so surreal that I even had to have that conversation. If someone would have told me a year ago exactly where I would be right now and why, I would not have believed them.
It's moments like this that make me regret the day I ever met the POS. I chose SO badly when I chose him to be my husband and father of my children and now my children have to have moments like this because I failed at recognizing him for the disordered and unfaithful POS that he is. 
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA |
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554 | | Posted: 7:56 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
(((((HUGS)))))
I know it hurts. It hurts.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Posts: 10491 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 7:57 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
(((House)))
Posts: 38335 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 7:57 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
((((housefulloflove)))) What you're feeling is completely normal. Take it easy on yourself, honey.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28418 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134 | | Posted: 8:42 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 6040 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida |
fallingquickly
♀ 36599
Member # 36599 | | Posted: 9:15 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
Posts: 462 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229 | | Posted: 9:36 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
Please know you're not alone.
I can handle what he did/does to me - I chose him. I'm still dripping with regret for choosing him for them.
((Housefulloflove)) It won't always hurt this bad. I promise.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5848 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia |
abigailadams
♀ 37556
Member # 37556 | | Posted: 11:25 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013 | |
The worst day is when you tell your children. Nothing hurts like seeing their pain. It will get better. And they will recover because you are there for them
Me BS 55
Him WS 53
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012
Posts: 134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Brooklyn, NY |
Coraline
♀ 36434
Member # 36434 | | Posted: 1:03 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 | |
(((Housefulloflove)))
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
numbandnauseous
♀ 34525
Member # 34525 | | Posted: 1:37 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 | |
house - I am so sorry. We are having the talk soon too and I am dreading it.
You and your children wil get through this - one step at a time, one tear at a time, one hug at a time. As you user name says, you have a house full of love and nothing can destroy that!
((((((((housefulloflove and children)))))) [This message edited by numbandnauseous at 1:38 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]
BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing
Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side |
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