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User Topic: Feeling low. Finally had the dreaded talk.
Housefulloflove
♀ 38458
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today I decided to bite the bullet and have a talk with the kids about the divorce.

As expected my girls took it well. My son did not. Seeing his tears means I am not either. :(

It's so surreal that I even had to have that conversation. If someone would have told me a year ago exactly where I would be right now and why, I would not have believed them.

It's moments like this that make me regret the day I ever met the POS. I chose SO badly when I chose him to be my husband and father of my children and now my children have to have moments like this because I failed at recognizing him for the disordered and unfaithful POS that he is.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((HUGS)))))

I know it hurts. It hurts.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10039 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((House)))

Posts: 36492 | Registered: Mar 2011
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((housefulloflove)))) What you're feeling is completely normal. Take it easy on yourself, honey.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26212 | Registered: Aug 2011
Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((house))))


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5551 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
fallingquickly
♀ 36599
Member # 36599
Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Housefulloflove)))


Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken

There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.


Posts: 455 | Registered: Aug 2012
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please know you're not alone.

I can handle what he did/does to me - I chose him. I'm still dripping with regret for choosing him for them.

((Housefulloflove)) It won't always hurt this bad. I promise.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5660 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
abigailadams
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Member # 37556
Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The worst day is when you tell your children. Nothing hurts like seeing their pain. It will get better. And they will recover because you are there for them


Me BS 55
Him WS 53
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012

Posts: 134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Brooklyn, NY
Coraline
♀ 36434
Member # 36434
Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Housefulloflove)))


Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
numbandnauseous
♀ 34525
Member # 34525
Default  Posted: 1:37 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

house - I am so sorry. We are having the talk soon too and I am dreading it.

You and your children wil get through this - one step at a time, one tear at a time, one hug at a time. As you user name says, you have a house full of love and nothing can destroy that!

((((((((housefulloflove and children))))))

[This message edited by numbandnauseous at 1:38 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
Topic Posts: 10

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