Happy Pants went to town cheating during our "separation"-that's what he wanted it for. He created fights and pretended to go through the motions but basically wanted to try the world out.
He didn't get away with it for as long as he thought, though and is not thought of as the same person now. He lost a lot of good people who cared genuinely about him, but none of it mattered when OW came along-he was willing to ruin his life and marriage.
I, too, am very alone and supposed to be "working on myself". I have learned things during this time and also not learned things, for there is much I don't understand. I've learned a lot about him and a lot about me and people in general...I see through him now-he helped me do that the hard way.
But, it's also showing who I am as a person and not part of a couple, where I was extremely overshadowed by him.
It is as you say, Joeboo, where it would be nice to have other adults around, but maybe not always him. Can't seem to even spit without being argued with. I am also a loner, FWIW, and dating is not something on my mind, though pure and deep lonliness is. Pets only go so far.
One thing I did come to understand is what I will and will not tolerate from him, and now from anyone, and before was basically walked on by many people.
I don't know if that helps at all, but I know what you mean.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.