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click4it posted 6/28/2013 23:12 PM

this is weekend is going to be TOUGH.

My first weekend alone and my first weekend trying not to smoke while alone. IF I can get through this weekend, then I have covered most triggers over the course of 10 days so far.

This is MY time when I usually just do whatever the heck I want cuz I *can* and that included having a cigarette.

Now that I am telling myself that that part of my life is over - I'm determined, but omg is this going to be a test.

persevere posted 6/28/2013 23:23 PM

You can do it click!!!

FaithFool posted 6/28/2013 23:27 PM

Tough one. Stick to it. It's worth it!

click4it posted 6/28/2013 23:32 PM

thanks guys! I think I need to find an online support group for quitting smoking or something in person. I can't come here everyday with my withdrawl rants.

Sad in AZ posted 6/29/2013 06:23 AM

Replace it with something else you really want to do--go to a nice restaurant (bring a book) because you can't smoke there, and try something you've always wanted to try--in moderation of course

nowiknow23 posted 6/29/2013 07:38 AM

I think I need to find an online support group for quitting smoking or something in person. I can't come here everyday with my withdrawl rants.
Yes you can! We are here for you and want to help you succeed even if just by cheering you on.

Also, you will never know the impact your posts here are having on folks who may not be posting, but are reading. If they are facing a similar struggle, they will see they are not alone. If they are looking for motivation and encouragement, they will see you making your way through this and know they can do it too.

Besides, we'd worry about how things are going for you if we didn't get your updates.

gahurts posted 6/29/2013 07:58 AM

Yes you can! We are here for you and want to help you succeed even if just by cheering you on.

^^^^This. Hang in there. You can do this!

kernel posted 6/29/2013 08:17 AM

You can do it click! Try to make it easier by going places that don't allow smoking. The library, the movies, restaurants.

click4it posted 6/29/2013 12:12 PM

Thanks! I just didn't want to bother the board with my frequent announcements about quitting. But hey if it will help others, I'm all for it!

I tried my first e-cig last night and at first I freaked out because it really is like smoking a cigarette!! So, I PM'd a member here to ask if it was harmful, because it felt like it was. She reassured me that it was not and explained what it was and I feel better now. Its totally a great substitute that I can use on weekends like this when alone.

I woke up this morning smoke free AGAIN. I did overeat last night as a "treat" to myself and figured that's better than going to buy a cigarette!

thanks for all the support.

ExposedNiblet posted 6/29/2013 12:28 PM

I was just going to recommend the ecig thing! You must've read my mind!

When I quit (9 years June 6!!!), I found that I was more addicted to the ritual itself than anything else. That last smoke of the day, sitting on my back porch, smelling the night air as the sun slowly sinks...man, I still can remember that completely satisfied feeling. (sigh) I loved smoking...

(sorry, I guess you really don't need to hear that)

Anyways, I found that if I cut drinking straws into the approximate length of an actual cigarette, I could fake going through that ritual whenever I wanted and still not go off the wagon. It worked very well. Of course, this was before the ecigs. I they would have been available back then, man, I would've been all over them like, well, you get the point).

Things would have been so much easier with ecigs.

In any case, clicky, keep on going - we've got your back whenever you need some support.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

click4it posted 6/29/2013 12:45 PM

thanks Exposed, we all remember our last cigarette don't we? Good for you for quitting 9 years ago! Did you gain any weight? Did develop any new addictions? Or hobbies?

I still can't believe I just QUIT. I really can't. to think I've been telling myself I'm going to quit for the last 11 years and 10 days ago I just did. Everytime I ended a pack I would say ok am I going to quit now? Now I think of all that smoke I inhaled and its makes me

Eranda posted 6/30/2013 01:52 AM

As you know, I quit two months ago when I was diagnosed with tongue cancer. Luckily for me the treatment was surgical removal and then lots of monitoring. I have my first follow-up with the oral surgeon on Aug. 5th.

I was also highly addicted to the ritual. It was the way I relaxed, dealt with stress, socialized... everything.

I've been using e-cigs since May 6th and I don't know what I would do without them, they are literally a lifesaver for me. I can still enjoy my favorite "smokes" without killing myself in the process :)

Keep it up, hun, you ARE doing it!!Whatever you have to do to avoid tobacco cigs is worth it. Ask my tongue...

letitout posted 6/30/2013 08:34 AM

I also wanted to say GOOD FOR YOU! I only smoked with I was in my late teens, and I dated a guy that I Loovvved, but he hated cigs. We went to a motel (this was when I had some money) and stayed a week. The first few days were awful, but the determination I had to quit was strong. I did it and never looked back. We were together for 7 years. I still don't smoke and I'm 54. I will always be thankful to him.

I'm proud of you for quitting!

lynnm1947 posted 6/30/2013 19:11 PM

YAY, Clicky! Good for you!

click4it posted 7/1/2013 00:07 AM

Letitout - I did the same years ago and then when ex-h left, I went right back.

But now, I'm going to be more determined than ever. Its Sunday night so the worst is over, I think as far as the weekend goes. Now, I have the next 4 days off work, but have some plans so hopefully that should help.

thanks all for the support.

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