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click4it
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Flame  Posted: 11:12 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this is weekend is going to be TOUGH.

My first weekend alone and my first weekend trying not to smoke while alone. IF I can get through this weekend, then I have covered most triggers over the course of 10 days so far.

This is MY time when I usually just do whatever the heck I want cuz I *can* and that included having a cigarette.

Now that I am telling myself that that part of my life is over - I'm determined, but omg is this going to be a test.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can do it click!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4715 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tough one. Stick to it. It's worth it!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17792 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, June 28th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks guys! I think I need to find an online support group for quitting smoking or something in person. I can't come here everyday with my withdrawl rants.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Replace it with something else you really want to do--go to a nice restaurant (bring a book) because you can't smoke there, and try something you've always wanted to try--in moderation of course


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20557 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I need to find an online support group for quitting smoking or something in person. I can't come here everyday with my withdrawl rants.
Yes you can! We are here for you and want to help you succeed even if just by cheering you on.

Also, you will never know the impact your posts here are having on folks who may not be posting, but are reading. If they are facing a similar struggle, they will see they are not alone. If they are looking for motivation and encouragement, they will see you making your way through this and know they can do it too.

Besides, we'd worry about how things are going for you if we didn't get your updates.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26489 | Registered: Aug 2011
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes you can! We are here for you and want to help you succeed even if just by cheering you on.

^^^^This. Hang in there. You can do this!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3523 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can do it click! Try to make it easier by going places that don't allow smoking. The library, the movies, restaurants.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5337 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks! I just didn't want to bother the board with my frequent announcements about quitting. But hey if it will help others, I'm all for it!

I tried my first e-cig last night and at first I freaked out because it really is like smoking a cigarette!! So, I PM'd a member here to ask if it was harmful, because it felt like it was. She reassured me that it was not and explained what it was and I feel better now. Its totally a great substitute that I can use on weekends like this when alone.

I woke up this morning smoke free AGAIN. I did overeat last night as a "treat" to myself and figured that's better than going to buy a cigarette!

thanks for all the support.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
ExposedNiblet
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just going to recommend the ecig thing! You must've read my mind!

When I quit (9 years June 6!!!), I found that I was more addicted to the ritual itself than anything else. That last smoke of the day, sitting on my back porch, smelling the night air as the sun slowly sinks...man, I still can remember that completely satisfied feeling. (sigh) I loved smoking...

(sorry, I guess you really don't need to hear that)

Anyways, I found that if I cut drinking straws into the approximate length of an actual cigarette, I could fake going through that ritual whenever I wanted and still not go off the wagon. It worked very well. Of course, this was before the ecigs. I they would have been available back then, man, I would've been all over them like, well, you get the point).

Things would have been so much easier with ecigs.

In any case, clicky, keep on going - we've got your back whenever you need some support.

YOU CAN DO THIS!


Divorced
Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
DS1(17), DS2(15)

Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.


Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks Exposed, we all remember our last cigarette don't we? Good for you for quitting 9 years ago! Did you gain any weight? Did develop any new addictions? Or hobbies?

I still can't believe I just QUIT. I really can't. to think I've been telling myself I'm going to quit for the last 11 years and 10 days ago I just did. Everytime I ended a pack I would say ok am I going to quit now? Now I think of all that smoke I inhaled and its makes me


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Eranda
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As you know, I quit two months ago when I was diagnosed with tongue cancer. Luckily for me the treatment was surgical removal and then lots of monitoring. I have my first follow-up with the oral surgeon on Aug. 5th.

I was also highly addicted to the ritual. It was the way I relaxed, dealt with stress, socialized... everything.

I've been using e-cigs since May 6th and I don't know what I would do without them, they are literally a lifesaver for me. I can still enjoy my favorite "smokes" without killing myself in the process :)

Keep it up, hun, you ARE doing it!!Whatever you have to do to avoid tobacco cigs is worth it. Ask my tongue...


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Posts: 4243 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
letitout
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also wanted to say GOOD FOR YOU! I only smoked with I was in my late teens, and I dated a guy that I Loovvved, but he hated cigs. We went to a motel (this was when I had some money) and stayed a week. The first few days were awful, but the determination I had to quit was strong. I did it and never looked back. We were together for 7 years. I still don't smoke and I'm 54. I will always be thankful to him.

I'm proud of you for quitting!


BW 55, WH 64
2 years of prostitutes.

Posts: 283 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: California
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YAY, Clicky! Good for you!


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7518 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:07 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Letitout - I did the same years ago and then when ex-h left, I went right back.

But now, I'm going to be more determined than ever. Its Sunday night so the worst is over, I think as far as the weekend goes. Now, I have the next 4 days off work, but have some plans so hopefully that should help.

thanks all for the support.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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