My heart goes out for your loss.
Still feel badly for your loss, though. May something good come in the wake...
I am glad that Eva's passing has let the two of you join forces to grieve, instead of driving you apart. I understand your legitimate fears of a crushing blow driving a wedge between the two of you, but maybe this is a sign of how far the both of you have come since those dark days.
The best of luck to both of you.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
Acceptance the Marriage is over: 7/2/14
Heading for D
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Though its terribly sad about your loss, it sounds like your both supporting one another. That's beautiful to hear. Grieving is tough, but necessary, and you have worked really hard to get to the point where you both feel safe enough to do so together. That warms my heart!
Again, I'm so sorry for your loss!
Divorced from and remarried to XBH
We lost our 22 year old kitty, Sidney, a few weeks after dday. At the time, I did not think that anything could hurt worse than dday. I was wrong. She was a huge blessing to me way before I married FWH, and in her passing, my husband I grew closer. Sid left me a gift also--she reminded me of that life is too short, and sadness and anger is a waste. Her loss was the first baby step for FWH husband and I to come back together. He was the only person on earth who truly understood the pain I was feeling, and I understood his pain too.
It has been over 3 years, and I still tear up when thinking about that special cat, and everything she taught me, in life and death.
About a year ago, we were finally ready to adopt a kitten...and ended up with 2. It was a tough decision. Sid could never be replaced, but it was time. Then, a couple bottle fed orphan kittens ended up in my house. Best decision ever. There is nothing more fun that baby cats!
I wish you well on the journey of grief for your dear cat. Know that one day, you will be able to look back and smile at her memory. And, someday, you'll be ready to open your heart again p.