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It's been just over a week since LH and I lost our wonderful cat Eva. :(
I was scared at first that this would really cause LH to withdraw from "us", but it really hasn't. quite the opposite in fact.
LH has been supportive of me and I of him and we're sharing our grief together.
His big fear was that he's be alone in another loss and grieving situation, just like after the A; but he said he doesn't feel that way.
I think he's reassured that I'm not a trigger and he wants to talk to me about it, and share his feelings.
We're making new plans for the future and he's putting a lot of energy into a garden overhaul to cat proof out back yard for when we get new additions.
I'm able to share my stories and feeling during my days, as being a veterinarian, all my clients understand completely. He has to pen in his loss until he comes home.
We're doing ok. We're sad but sad together and that's better than it's been before. I'm grateful that Eva has given me that parting gift - to become closer to my husband again. Gifts come from the most unexpected places. Still miss her to pieces. :( RIP our little kitten.

OM, cats are wonderful creatures. When Heart and I moved, we had to give up our two beloved kitties to a shelter with no knowledge of what happened to them.

My heart goes out for your loss.

Oh KB that's so sad....at least we have an ending. We got to bury her together in a field we own. Our other animals are being very loving and the older cat (13y) is being very loving right now.
Animals are so wonderful - they know what unconditional means...

Since you mentioned it, I am upset that I don't have an ending, and I feel a peace for you that you at least got to know what happened at the end.

Still feel badly for your loss, though. May something good come in the wake...

I am sorry for your and LH's loss. They are family...I really mean that...and I can only imagine your pain.

I am glad that Eva's passing has let the two of you join forces to grieve, instead of driving you apart. I understand your legitimate fears of a crushing blow driving a wedge between the two of you, but maybe this is a sign of how far the both of you have come since those dark days.

The best of luck to both of you.

(((OM & LH)))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

((OM & LH))
So sorry for your loss! Cats are such tiny creatures that take up such an enormous space in our lives and hearts. They love unconditionally and never care if your hair's a mess or if you have stinky morning breath. I lost my beloved Ashley a year ago today, she was my best friend for 15 yrs.

Though its terribly sad about your loss, it sounds like your both supporting one another. That's beautiful to hear. Grieving is tough, but necessary, and you have worked really hard to get to the point where you both feel safe enough to do so together. That warms my heart!

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss!

I have been thinking about you both and poor sweet Eva. I'm glad that you are both able to pull together in this difficult time. Hugs and good thoughts to you both.

I've been thinking about you two also, since your H posted about Eva. I am so sorry. I'm a cat lady---I have 3 beautiful, sweet girl kitties and my family has had cats all my life. I'm sorry for your loss and I'm glad you and your H are dealing with it together.

I am sorry about the loss of your dear kitty.

We lost our 22 year old kitty, Sidney, a few weeks after dday. At the time, I did not think that anything could hurt worse than dday. I was wrong. She was a huge blessing to me way before I married FWH, and in her passing, my husband I grew closer. Sid left me a gift also--she reminded me of that life is too short, and sadness and anger is a waste. Her loss was the first baby step for FWH husband and I to come back together. He was the only person on earth who truly understood the pain I was feeling, and I understood his pain too.

It has been over 3 years, and I still tear up when thinking about that special cat, and everything she taught me, in life and death.

About a year ago, we were finally ready to adopt a kitten...and ended up with 2. It was a tough decision. Sid could never be replaced, but it was time. Then, a couple bottle fed orphan kittens ended up in my house. Best decision ever. There is nothing more fun that baby cats!

I wish you well on the journey of grief for your dear cat. Know that one day, you will be able to look back and smile at her memory. And, someday, you'll be ready to open your heart again p.