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letitout posted 6/29/2013 09:13 AM

My WH is overseas and I would like to express words of encouragement about our R in email but don't know what to say. I often bumble through conversations face to face and it almost always ends up about his cheating and that doesn't help matters. This way I can think about it and he can think about it before responding and be positive. Any suggestions?

sisoon posted 6/29/2013 13:21 PM

Weekends can be slow. I don't have any advice for you, but I hear you.

One thing, though, is he saying anything to you to confirm his commitment to you and to show he's not cheating while he's away?

letitout posted 6/29/2013 15:51 PM

Hi sisoon. He is calling everyday (16hr time difference can be hard though0, and we have emailed. But it is all superficial about work and kids. He did say I love you in his email which he hasn't said or done in a long time. I emailed back if that seemed weird to him to write that, but his next email didn't respond to it.

IDN, I just want to write something more meaningful without putting more stress on the situation. A quote perhaps.

IDN, I guess I just want something more meaningful to be said without putting stress on him while he is away. A quote or

letitout posted 6/29/2013 15:52 PM

I don't know why my post doubled.

sisoon posted 6/30/2013 09:57 AM

Why not talk to your H about wanting not to be superficial, despite the difficulties? That's honest and loving, a pretty powerful combination.