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letitout (original poster member #38288) posted at 3:13 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
My WH is overseas and I would like to express words of encouragement about our R in email but don't know what to say. I often bumble through conversations face to face and it almost always ends up about his cheating and that doesn't help matters. This way I can think about it and he can think about it before responding and be positive. Any suggestions?
BW 57, WH 66, 19 yo twins
Married 28 years
2 years of $$$$$$ prostitutes.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:21 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Weekends can be slow. I don't have any advice for you, but I hear you.
One thing, though, is he saying anything to you to confirm his commitment to you and to show he's not cheating while he's away?
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
letitout (original poster member #38288) posted at 9:51 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Hi sisoon. He is calling everyday (16hr time difference can be hard though0, and we have emailed. But it is all superficial about work and kids. He did say I love you in his email which he hasn't said or done in a long time. I emailed back if that seemed weird to him to write that, but his next email didn't respond to it.
IDN, I just want to write something more meaningful without putting more stress on the situation. A quote perhaps.
IDN, I guess I just want something more meaningful to be said without putting stress on him while he is away. A quote or
BW 57, WH 66, 19 yo twins
Married 28 years
2 years of $$$$$$ prostitutes.
letitout (original poster member #38288) posted at 9:52 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
I don't know why my post doubled.
BW 57, WH 66, 19 yo twins
Married 28 years
2 years of $$$$$$ prostitutes.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:57 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Why not talk to your H about wanting not to be superficial, despite the difficulties? That's honest and loving, a pretty powerful combination.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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