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Akers2 posted 6/29/2013 09:44 AM

This morning I begged my my WH not to go into work because I was having a rough morning. (not to mention they still work together) He said I'm "obsessed" with this and it has to stop. HE'S tired of talking about every minute of every day. It's only been about 2 weeks. I saw remorse from him for about 3 days where he cried and said he'll do whatever it takes. Now he thinks I'm "obsessed". I don't know what to do...I can't go back to Ohio...my family is not prepared to take on my problem along with a new baby. I'm so afraid something bad is going to happen to me and baby because of this and NOBODY cares. I think I'm finally realizing what a selfish bastard my husband is and I need a way out of this. I can't afford a lawyer right now either...I just want my baby safe and away from all of this. It's so unfair :(

isadora posted 6/29/2013 10:03 AM

What exactly do you fear could happen to you and the baby?

Begging your WH will not help. I know this ia tough but take deep breath. Focus on what actions you can take to help your situation. Do a consultation with a lawyer (most consults are free). Knowledge is power.

Focus on what actions you want him to take and what you can do if he does not follow through.

Crying and telling he will do whatever it takes is not remorse. Mine did that too, the sentiment is nice but he needs to back it up with actions

[This message edited by isadora at 10:15 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]

confused615 posted 6/29/2013 10:12 AM

That wasn't remorse..it was regret..and he was probably crying for himself because his "fun" was over.

Tell him it takes 3-5 years to heal from this shit. 2 weeks? Tell him to man the fuck up.

He needs to find another job..NC is essential to your healing and R.

Is he doing *anything* to show you he wants to R?

Is he transparent? Do you have full access to all of his accounts and his cell?

Will he answer your questions without blaming and anger?

Has he been tested for STD's?

Maybe you could leave and visit your family just to get a break? Only don't tell him that. As long as he knows you're stuck,nothing will change.

ETA: I just read your profile. He thinks she is "sweet,caring,and unselfish??" She is a fucking nasty whore who is fucking a married man..a newly married man with a baby. Selfish is the very least of what she is.

[This message edited by confused615 at 10:15 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]

doggiediva posted 6/29/2013 10:14 AM

I am wondering the same thing, what will happen to you and your baby?
If he doesn't want to talk and discuss M and A (at a set time and place for a set amount of time), then don't stuff your feelings down for the sake of acting normal..
IMHO a 180 is needed..Your WH at this point in time with this attitude that you describe is un remorseful..Because he is talking to you in an un remorseful, disrespectful and controlling manner, don't give him the perks and benefits of being married to you..

EasyDoesIt posted 6/29/2013 13:00 PM

Tell him you'll get over it just as soon as he un-fucks the whore.

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