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Ariabook (original poster member #39669) posted at 5:47 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Hello SI!
Lately I've been triggering a lot - Summer. I met my EXSO in the summertime and spent most of them with him, going out and such. I can't turn a corner without being reminded of something. Will the memories ever go away? How can I reclaim the spots we went to together? I still love going to these places and don't want to feel uncomfortable or sad while being there.
And of course, cause I'm curious, what seasons/holidays make you guys trigger?
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 6:10 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
End of summer, beginning of fall. It's coming up too...yay!!
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
Flatlined123 ( member #35862) posted at 6:18 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
May through September. Especially July. I don't just dislike the heat, I pretty much hate the whole summer.
Me: BS H: WS4 kids DD #1 7-11-08DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.Started R in 12-09"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."
NotDefeatedYet ( member #33642) posted at 6:20 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Everything always seems to happen to me around Halloween.
"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."
Daisy312 ( member #36813) posted at 6:21 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Fall, winter, and spring. Ow started texting My h in october, the A lasted until the beginning of April! All my favorite holidays and birthdays fall during this time:(
heforgotme ( member #38391) posted at 6:45 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
Summer and fall.
I am just grateful that it didn't fall over Christmas. I love Christmas.
D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry
struggling16 ( member #33202) posted at 6:51 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
July through December 27. The anniversary of our dead M is July 4-he was planning the A then and brought me roses. It's now a meaningless day. He wants to embrace it.
July is when he planned the A, used me to host our grandchildren for a week, then officially started the whole ugly mess. I'm most bitter about how he pretended to be a good grandpa and father for the entire summer, fall and winter while he was planning ----fests with the 25 year old AP.
[This message edited by struggling16 at 7:27 AM, July 4th (Thursday)]
residencywife93 ( new member #39695) posted at 7:24 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
spring.. Spring..spring. Seems like a nasty cycle of cheating and lying happens from March to June.
Ugh. Finally getting out of June but the pain and hurt don't go away
Me: BS 27
Him: WH 27
Married 9/3/11
Together since 10/2006
DDay 5/28/13
Filed 7/22/13
Lacing up my nikes and running west!
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 9:10 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2013
This is where those of us in the LTA camp are so "lucky" 
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Seriously, though, whole years are affected rather than seasons. Whenever a year is mentioned I automatically see if it fell in that time, any photo, etc. I determine if it was during the "toxic" years, or before he realized she was crazy....
It's getting better, but..
Heavy sigh.
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
integritymatters ( member #23681) posted at 12:04 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
I particularly don't like Victoria weekend (Cdn). That's when my mom went into the hospital and I never saw her again and that's also the weekend my 16 year old sister died a decade later.
I don't like Labout Day weekend and most of September. It just always seems full of stress and sucks big time. Back to school, end of summer... I don't know, It just always sucks. September always makes me sad. Shame that is. My birthday is in Sept
I hate November. What a dreary, gloomy month of nothing but either grey skies and rain or shitty wet snow.
I now don't like early spring/late winter either. That's when the A began and that's also when the F'ing thing finally ended 2 years later...
I've learned that what I relate to things...seasons, dates, times... is all up to me.
July 3 was original Dday 
it's also the birthday of my nephew who violated my toddler daughter way back 17 years ago
You know what? July 3 is also my sister's birthday. She owned that day long before any of this other crap happened. She's dead now and has been for 34 years now.... It's her day. Her season. She's something good about July 3
I'm going to spend that day, that season, remembering what is good and real about this world. Like my sister.
I dropped my toast this morning and it landed butter side up! It's going to be a good day. :)
allfalldown ( member #39324) posted at 12:16 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Now. Summer. Last year, we went to the beach for 2 weeks. WH joined us for the second week. He was having his own "vacation" while we were gone.
I am trying hard not to let his behavior ruin the beach for me. It is my happiest place.
Dday 5-10-13
1 year + EA/PA (still TT)
Me- BW
Him- WH
M- 15 years
2 kiddos
Today's forecast is foggy with a chance of D.
"Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie"
stunnedin12 ( member #38141) posted at 12:30 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Eh - pick a month or season, it'll work. I wonder if the farther out we get it changes?
Easter 2012 --- the text chickie sent at Easter
May 2012 -- I finally had evidence and confronted
July 2012 -- He contacted her
October 2012 -- He contacted her.
January 2013 -- He saw her.
April 2013 -- He contacted her.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Lawyers involved.
hobbeskat ( member #38805) posted at 8:26 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Got 2 biggies coming up.
July 27th: my hen night. That time last year the OW was celebrating our upcoming marriage with me.
August 31st: our first wedding anniversary of our sham marriage.
Valentine's Day will also suck as he left me the day after and was cheating on me through it.
Want2help ( member #20547) posted at 7:15 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
July 4th.
The only holiday FWH spent with OW (while we were separated) and OW's favorite holiday. Now OW's anniversary (she drove 4 hours to be married near our home--yay! )
FBS/WS- me.
F(serial)WS/BS- him.
Madhatters. More Ddays than birthdays, at this point. His OC, my OC...
UPDATE: Divorcing after almost 20 years.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 12:23 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
Now 
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
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