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Ariabook posted 6/29/2013 11:47 AM

Hello SI!

Lately I've been triggering a lot - Summer. I met my EXSO in the summertime and spent most of them with him, going out and such. I can't turn a corner without being reminded of something. Will the memories ever go away? How can I reclaim the spots we went to together? I still love going to these places and don't want to feel uncomfortable or sad while being there.

And of course, cause I'm curious, what seasons/holidays make you guys trigger?

Ostrich80 posted 6/29/2013 12:10 PM

End of summer, beginning of fall. It's coming up too...yay!!

Flatlined123 posted 6/29/2013 12:18 PM

May through September. Especially July. I don't just dislike the heat, I pretty much hate the whole summer.

NotDefeatedYet posted 6/29/2013 12:20 PM

Everything always seems to happen to me around Halloween.

Daisy312 posted 6/29/2013 12:21 PM

Fall, winter, and spring. Ow started texting My h in october, the A lasted until the beginning of April! All my favorite holidays and birthdays fall during this time:(

heforgotme posted 6/29/2013 12:45 PM

Summer and fall.

I am just grateful that it didn't fall over Christmas. I love Christmas.

struggling16 posted 6/29/2013 12:51 PM

July through December 27. The anniversary of our dead M is July 4-he was planning the A then and brought me roses. It's now a meaningless day. He wants to embrace it.

July is when he planned the A, used me to host our grandchildren for a week, then officially started the whole ugly mess. I'm most bitter about how he pretended to be a good grandpa and father for the entire summer, fall and winter while he was planning ----fests with the 25 year old AP.

[This message edited by struggling16 at 7:27 AM, July 4th (Thursday)]

residencywife93 posted 6/29/2013 13:24 PM

spring.. Spring..spring. Seems like a nasty cycle of cheating and lying happens from March to June.

Ugh. Finally getting out of June but the pain and hurt don't go away

catlover50 posted 6/29/2013 15:10 PM

This is where those of us in the LTA camp are so "lucky" .

Seriously, though, whole years are affected rather than seasons. Whenever a year is mentioned I automatically see if it fell in that time, any photo, etc. I determine if it was during the "toxic" years, or before he realized she was crazy....

It's getting better, but..

Heavy sigh.

integritymatters posted 6/29/2013 18:04 PM

I particularly don't like Victoria weekend (Cdn). That's when my mom went into the hospital and I never saw her again and that's also the weekend my 16 year old sister died a decade later.

I don't like Labout Day weekend and most of September. It just always seems full of stress and sucks big time. Back to school, end of summer... I don't know, It just always sucks. September always makes me sad. Shame that is. My birthday is in Sept

I hate November. What a dreary, gloomy month of nothing but either grey skies and rain or shitty wet snow.

I now don't like early spring/late winter either. That's when the A began and that's also when the F'ing thing finally ended 2 years later...

I've learned that what I relate to things...seasons, dates, times... is all up to me.

July 3 was original Dday it's also the birthday of my nephew who violated my toddler daughter way back 17 years ago

You know what? July 3 is also my sister's birthday. She owned that day long before any of this other crap happened. She's dead now and has been for 34 years now.... It's her day. Her season. She's something good about July 3

I'm going to spend that day, that season, remembering what is good and real about this world. Like my sister.

allfalldown posted 6/29/2013 18:16 PM

Now. Summer. Last year, we went to the beach for 2 weeks. WH joined us for the second week. He was having his own "vacation" while we were gone.

I am trying hard not to let his behavior ruin the beach for me. It is my happiest place.

stunnedin12 posted 6/29/2013 18:30 PM

Eh - pick a month or season, it'll work. I wonder if the farther out we get it changes?

Easter 2012 --- the text chickie sent at Easter
May 2012 -- I finally had evidence and confronted
July 2012 -- He contacted her
October 2012 -- He contacted her.
January 2013 -- He saw her.
April 2013 -- He contacted her.

hobbeskat posted 6/30/2013 14:26 PM

Got 2 biggies coming up.

July 27th: my hen night. That time last year the OW was celebrating our upcoming marriage with me.

August 31st: our first wedding anniversary of our sham marriage.

Valentine's Day will also suck as he left me the day after and was cheating on me through it.

Want2help posted 7/1/2013 13:15 PM

July 4th.

The only holiday FWH spent with OW (while we were separated) and OW's favorite holiday. Now OW's anniversary (she drove 4 hours to be married near our home--yay! )

solus sto posted 7/1/2013 18:23 PM

Now