Any good tips, strategies, advice? When I get that feeling I first come here to look for advice... This place and you all are all wonderful.
Lacing up my nikes and running west!
I had trouble stopping cyberstalking the OW. But it was tearing me up. When I felt that way I'd find something to occupy my mind. A news article, magazine, kindle book, app game, play with my dog, call a friend. Just anything. Over time the compulsion lessened.
Good luck res wive.
[This message edited by purplejacket4 at 1:41 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]
If you find yourself urged to make contact distract yourself go for a walk, eat something, do a crossword, go for a drive. Call a friend, clean the bathroom, vacuum the floor, Just do something else.
No contact means no new hurts.
Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M
Sometimes I can't seem to stop myself from talking to him. I have a hard time ignoring him but am trying my best-I hope it will be easier when we are apart.
One thing I did today was to unfriend him and his entire family from FB. I sent those closest to me a message letting them know that I could not have any reminders of him at this time(for my own sanity) no bad mouthing him, or woe is me stuff. Just a quick note-to the point. I needed to do that because I know I will want to look and check up on him, and now I can't.
Trying to save me from myself-so i know exactly how you feel. I hope it gets a little easier each day.