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Any good suggestions on how to keep avoiding contact? Sometimes I just want to shoot over a quick text but I know it's a bad idea...I'm trying to move on, not move backwards.

Any good tips, strategies, advice? When I get that feeling I first come here to look for advice... This place and you all are all wonderful.

There's a mantra I've seen here from others: Non contact = no new hurts.

I had trouble stopping cyberstalking the OW. But it was tearing me up. When I felt that way I'd find something to occupy my mind. A news article, magazine, kindle book, app game, play with my dog, call a friend. Just anything. Over time the compulsion lessened.

Good luck res wive.

[This message edited by purplejacket4 at 1:41 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]

Don't contact unless it's kids and finances.

If you find yourself urged to make contact distract yourself go for a walk, eat something, do a crossword, go for a drive. Call a friend, clean the bathroom, vacuum the floor, Just do something else.

No contact means no new hurts.

((residencywife93))

When you're tempted to make contact, find something else to do. it will get easier in time.

Focus is the key. Focus on your new life, new interests or new activities that you would like to add to your life. Take steps to add them, even if it's just making plans. Even daydreaming about them will help. Look forward, not back, and focus on that.

I am new here too and am having the same issue. We are still living together as other arrangements are being made. Hopefully it will only be a few days longer.

Sometimes I can't seem to stop myself from talking to him. I have a hard time ignoring him but am trying my best-I hope it will be easier when we are apart.

One thing I did today was to unfriend him and his entire family from FB. I sent those closest to me a message letting them know that I could not have any reminders of him at this time(for my own sanity) no bad mouthing him, or woe is me stuff. Just a quick note-to the point. I needed to do that because I know I will want to look and check up on him, and now I can't.

Trying to save me from myself-so i know exactly how you feel. I hope it gets a little easier each day.
*hugs*