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User Topic: hysterical bonding
♀ 39702
Member # 39702
Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have any of you experienced this? I am glad to know there is a term for what I have been feeling and going thru.
I am feeling horrible about it though. There was no separation and no time to think. I don't think there's true remorse on his part b/c he doesn't really changed anything. He's just not on the computer as much while I'm home.
I guess it's all so new and I'm glad to have found this place. I'm not really talking to anyone IRL about it and I feel safe to come her and talk about my feelings and read others as well.
So have you experienced HB? was it good for you and your relationship?

Me BW (36)
WH (39)
together 16 years
2 kids: 6 DD & 10 month DS
TT: 4/26/13
TT: 5/6/13
more TT: 6/13/13
more TT: 7/9/13

Posts: 40 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 37154
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please see my response to the post on HB above.

So sorry for what you,are going through.

Dday -9/23/2012

Posts: 2091 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
♀ 23681
Member # 23681
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto Catlover50

There's an ealier, recent post titled Questions hysterical bonding

If what you are seeking to be answered isn't there, post another more specific post

HB is a very common "feeling" or experience in the aftermath of an A for both BS & WS. You aren't alone whether you indulged or refrained and you will find a varience in the significance to the "R"

I dropped my toast this morning and it landed butter side up! It's going to be a good day. :)

Posts: 1482 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: Canada
♀ 31349
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went through this x1000. I felt like I was possessed or something. Fwh was remorseful and forthcoming, so that made it a little bit easier. We also had gone through a few rounds of std testing.

If he's not coming clean for you, I'd try to refrain. It's hard, but you are certainly not crazy.

"And above all things, never think that you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning."
- I. Asimov

Posts: 25519 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 2:46 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes after DD for about 2 months. I remember thinking how good the sex was but.I also.remember feeling sad later like I.knew deep down it was all an illusion..for my sich anyway.I was telling myself that everything was A ok because we were so hot for each other, thought I knocked ow right out of his brain...didn't go that way for me, I was wrong
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5729 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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