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Topic: It really does get better...
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Audrina
♀ 31522
Member # 31522 |  Posted: 2:50 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 |     |
I have not been on in a while but decided to check in.
I am relieved to say that it does get "better". At least it has for me.
It has been almost 4 yrs since DDAY...we have not had a cheating related argument for about 9 months now.
I just don't feel the need to bring it up anymore, rehash, think about it etc I'm enjoying life and my relationship.
I know that if it ever happened again, I would be gone in a second.
Triggers have diminished to almost nothing and I am relieved.
I feel safe.
Me (betrayed): 35
Him:45
Posts: 276 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Canada |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 3:40 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 | |
Wonderful update!!! Thank you for sharing. 
Posts: 37477 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
sadallthetime
♀ 26845
Member # 26845 | | Posted: 5:50 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 | |
Double post - sorry [This message edited by sadallthetime at 5:54 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]
Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF
Posts: 104 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida |
sadallthetime
♀ 26845
Member # 26845 | | Posted: 5:53 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 | |
(((Audrina))) I am almost 4 years out also. It's getting better. I am enjoying life & my marriage again. Agree with all you said especially if it ever happened again I would be out of here in a second. Both FWH and know that. Our relationship is loving. Thanks for sharing.,
Me-BW 60 now, FWH 64 now, 2 adult kids
DD#1 7-21-09 11 yr. affair w OW 30 yrs. younger who is an "escort". DD#2 7-23-09 Long Term EA with mutual friend DD#3 10-3-09 1 1/2 yr PA with escort #2 DD#4 10 yr. EA w/old GF
Posts: 104 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida |
TarheelMom
♀ 35726
Member # 35726 | | Posted: 9:33 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013 | |
So glad to hear this! :) I'm happy for you!!!
Me: BW
Posts: 252 | Registered: Jun 2012 |
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622 | | Posted: 6:27 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013 | |
BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2707 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
petite71
♀ 36475
Member # 36475 | | Posted: 7:27 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Thanks for sharing!!! 
1st DD 03/24/2012 2nd DD 07/13/2012 TT A. in 2002 same girl when we were dating.
Status:Getting Stronger...we can get through this & are healing together
BS(me):41
WS(Husband):40
LTA 10 yrs EA/PA 9 times. friends with benefits.
Us..Together 12 yr
Posts: 126 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA |
sri624
♀ 33956
Member # 33956 | | Posted: 11:06 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013 | |
thanks for sharing....i guess it really does take a long time for it to get better...4 years....geez. but i am glad that you shared this. it only reinforces to me that it takes a long time...and a lot of hard work to get through this. it cant be rushed in any way. thanks again.
BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
R:Last chance
Posts: 1039 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama |
myone and only
♂ 26450
Member # 26450 | | Posted: 7:38 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013 | |
I'm also glad I read this. Haven't posted in a long time. It's almost 4 years for me and just when I think the worst is over, BAM, a trigger sets me off back in time and the anger just overwhelms me and puts me in a funk for days. Then I come out of it and things are better.
Anyone else going through this? Will this ever end? Or is this the life I now must lead? Please help.
me BS 51
her WS 45
status: R
"Just You And I"
dday 11-28-09
Posts: 67 | Registered: Dec 2009 |
rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314 | | Posted: 7:56 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013 | |
is this the life I now must lead
wondering this myself. I have choices I realize but none seem very good to me.
his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
Posts: 6088 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest |
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