his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
Thank you for posting that. While some of it rings true, and at this time, there isn't much punishment going on, there are a couple things I will never forgive and I don't feel badly about it.
Does it mean we don't have true love? I don't think so. It may mean we don't have 100% true unconditional love. To forgive a couple of instances where I was mind- fucked feels like I would not be honoring myself and the pain that girl went through. It would say to me that what I went through was "ok." It wasn't and I know that's not what she's saying but that's how I define firgiveness.
I love him less for doing those things to me. So be it. I will settle for less then as there is too much good stuff to give up. That's real life. I don't think of these things often and I don't bring them up but I will never forget them. And there will be a piece of me he doesn't get because of it. Actions, meet consequences.....
[This message edited by rachelc at 6:47 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
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