You guys rock!!!!! I did the baby oil and washed it out deal and it worked really, really great! I missed a few spots and can still see brown spots on her scalp (she's a blondie) but it's not even close to what it was before. Her hair looks so much prettier and silky too!
It took a few washes to get it all out of her hair but it was so worth it. I used her baby brush from when she was an infant and did circular motions in her hair to help me. She hates feeling my fingers on her scalp.
Thank you again for everyone putting in their recommendations. You have made this mama very happy and little less stressed