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livebythesea posted 6/29/2013 21:16 PM

It has been a week now since H told me about another sexual encounter he had which started while he was doing f ... laundry. It has been a difficult, and very emotionally draining.

Last night, after reading one response, someone mention I should have a STD test done. It had never occurred to me. Naive. I spent my Saturday night at the hospital emergency unit, had a vaginal test done and told my horror story to a doctor I never met before. We will get the results in a week.

SoVerySadNow posted 6/29/2013 21:23 PM

It's good you got checked. Hopefully you will have no worries.

[This message edited by SoVerySadNow at 9:23 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]

kernel posted 6/29/2013 21:34 PM

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It truly sucks. But you did the smart thing, taking care of your own health. ((livebythesea))

Jospehine85 posted 6/29/2013 23:54 PM

I hope the physician explained to you that you should not have unprotected sex with your spouse until he is tested and tests negative for all STDs.

Also, I hope he mentioned when you need to come back for retesting as HIV and HepC antibodies can take some time to develop and thus test positive.

(((livebythesea)))

Nature_Girl posted 6/30/2013 01:45 AM

I'm so sorry. I was so angry when I went to my test. Not embarassed, just pissed. I told everyone why I was there.

Ashland13 posted 6/30/2013 11:44 AM

Good for you.

It's one of the hard things, I think, because of all that this denotes.

I had to tell the obgyn when I got pregnant and they test me periodically now. Negative, thank heaven.

FWIW, I did not tell Happy Pants this and I note that he was horrified when I brought it up during false R. He flat refused and at first thought it was part of my idiot problem he apparently thought I have.

What's ironic is that he had a midlife crisis and had been bezerk about health issues prior to the A being outed, so this totally amazed me that he was flighty, bit... and worked very hard to get out of the testing.

STD's can also turn to ugly other things, from what I understand, if they are certain types or levels.

solus sto posted 6/30/2013 12:30 PM

I hope the physician explained to you that you should not have unprotected sex with your spouse until he is tested and tests negative for all STDs.

Also, I hope he mentioned when you need to come back for retesting as HIV and HepC antibodies can take some time to develop and thus test positive.

You state that you had testing by vaginal swab.

Was blood testing also done?

Were you advised that some diseases do not appear immediately, and that you will require blood tests, at intervals, for a period of months (or years; my doctor recommends tests for 24 months)?

Were you advised that your husband must also be tested, over a period of months?

Were you told not to engage in unprotected sex until the testing, over time, has been completed---and then, only if you are certain your husband has been faithful in the interim?

I ask, because the doctor who diagnosed my first STD did not do any of these things.

And it could have cost me my life.

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