Topic: Hi - First Post
Member # 39474
| Posted: 9:21 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Hi, I'm QS. Husband to Aubrie. Finally got the nerve to create a profile here. Want to thank the admins for their vision and dedication to have a place like this where people in our position can gain support and understanding. Always been more of a reader and not much of a talker. Reading the stories, struggles, and triumphs here have been helpful and encouraging.
Might take some time but maybe I'll get to a place where I can freely and openly dispense with comments and advice. Till then, lurkdom and the occasional comment will suffice.
Thanks for being here SI.
BH - 32
FWW - Aubrie
Posts: 4 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Tennessee
Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:23 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Welcome, QuietStand. So glad you've joined us. Use SI however best works for you - whether posting, reading, or both. And remember to take what works for you and leave the rest.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28179 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 30396
| Posted: 9:25 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Welcome QuietStand. There is a tremendous amount of support here. We are glad you have decided to make a profile. There is a lot of collective wisdom here. We will be glad to have you contribute (frequently or occasionally!)
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Posts: 1809 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Member # 32890
| Posted: 9:44 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Welcome, and good news. A positive proactive step which leads me to think that you are in R. (not that clued up as I am a member who comes back now and then for healing, or paying it fwd)Either way, major step for both of you
"Once forgiving begins, dreams can be rebuilt. When forgiving is complete, meaning has been extracted from the worst of experiences and used to create a new set of moral rules and a new interpretation of life's events."
Posts: 423 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: North Carolina
Member # 14866
| Posted: 9:45 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Posts: 53957 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 32943
| Posted: 9:47 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Me: BS, 40's.
Posts: 1839 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Member # 15162
| Posted: 9:52 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Glad you decided to jump in
FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Posts: 38993 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Member # 18449
| Posted: 9:57 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Posts: 11814 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 19333
| Posted: 9:58 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
You can't change the wind, but you can adjust your sails.
Posts: 9561 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Birthplace of America's Music
Member # 33457
| Posted: 9:59 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Welcome and no pressure.
Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2011
Member # 27148
| Posted: 10:08 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.
Posts: 2996 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 29959
| Posted: 10:12 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
how it do, mang?
The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.
Posts: 2411 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
Member # 33698
| Posted: 10:23 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3723 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 33934
| Posted: 10:55 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Me(35) XWW(36) DS(7) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13
Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.
Posts: 1155 | Registered: Nov 2011
Member # 30369
| Posted: 11:07 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
Hello, and welcome, QuietStand!
Was going to provide you with some additional words, but I think the first few posters summed up what I was going to say pretty well!
Good to have you here, man.
“When we protect ourselves so we won't feel pain, that protection becomes like armor, like armor that imprisons the softness of of the heart.” ― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 10413 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 30989
| Posted: 11:32 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke
Posts: 9452 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 36134
| Posted: 12:11 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 6024 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 37455
| Posted: 1:06 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
it only took me about 6 months to make my first post.
talk about a club you never wanted to join.
I am so sorry you are here, glad you made it.
BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 21(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 3591 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 36622
| Posted: 6:26 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
SI has been a life saver for me. I hope you find what you need here.
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2731 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 23777
| Posted: 6:52 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
DDAYs TOO MANY
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.
Posts: 1411 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
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