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stungbytravel posted 6/29/2013 21:48 PM


I am feeling very alone tonight. Its my fifth night separated. I want to call him or text him or something but I won't.

I have only had two communications with him. The last one ended with "Take Care Stung".

tryingagain74 posted 6/29/2013 21:52 PM

You're not alone.

Keep up with the NC. It gets easier every day. I know that probably rings hollow to you right now, but it's true.

(((stungbytravel)))

Take2 posted 6/29/2013 21:55 PM

Stung - keep yourself busy - and no alcohol! When is the last time you updated your strong chick music list? I recommend Youtube - right now!

newlysingle posted 6/29/2013 22:06 PM

It will get easier. I promise. I initially missed STBX a lot, but I grew to enjoy having the house to myself quickly. It got to the point that when he would briefly come over to pick up the kids or to fix something at the house, I couldn't wait for him to leave.

SBB posted 6/30/2013 01:21 AM

Like any bad habit it is hard to break and takes time and effort.

Try not to read into anything he says - watch.his.actions. They are speaking to you loud and clear here.

((stungbytravel)) I cringe when I remember those early days. I felt like I had lost a limb. Truth is I had lost a tumour. It takes a whole for those ghost pains to ease. Be gentle with yourself.

Titanium posted 6/30/2013 03:25 AM

((((((Stungbytravel)))))))

I am with you honey. This is night number 4 for me. I told him to leave after 18 months if total bullshit.

I feel weird. Sleeping feels weird after having soneone next to me for 24 years BUT i feel relieved.

That dark pathetic energy has gone. My son is relaxed now, we are chilling and i know each day will get better.

Has to.........cant get any worse now there is no lying, cheated sack of shit around.

You keep busy and do what i am doing.....dont focus on what he did to you...thats past......focus only on all the great things that will now come into your life.....and trust me they will.

You deserve to be treated with love and respect and now you are available for that.......

Love yourself......watch your life bloom now.

((((Hugs)))))

thenon-goddess posted 6/30/2013 05:32 AM

((((stung))))

but I grew to enjoy having the house to myself quickly. It got to the point that when he would briefly come over to pick up the kids or to fix something at the house, I couldn't wait for him to leave.

Yes, this! It does take time, but once you start detaching a bit more and get used to the new reality, it will probably feel nice. Like I've told you, I still have my moments where I feel sad, but for the most part I just feel so much more peace.


Housefulloflove posted 6/30/2013 14:52 PM

" I felt like I had lost a limb. Truth is I had lost a tumour. "

<3 this!

(((stung))) it will get easier. I know those words rarely feel helpful but they are true.

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